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Life With 2

2011-06-16T19:00:00.001-05:00

My life has taken a major turn with the birth my second child. I considered the thought that having more than one was going to be a challenge, but it is tough on many days. The hardest part is keeping the schedules of two children of different ages...a four year old and a four month old. Most days they don't eat, sleep or need cleaning at the same time. Trying to make sure each get enough of your attention is where I struggle most. Once I get them both "tended" to it is 8 o'clock...where did the time go. I think I would love it to pieces if we could just come home, play with the kids, and go to bed. NO LAUNDRY. NO COOKING. (Eating but no cooking.) NO CLEANING. NO BATHS. NO TV. Just interacting with the family. When we had Hurricane Ike a few years ago and were without electricity for days...that is what we did. It was great! You didn't have to do laundry because your washer and dryer didn't work. You didn't have to cook a lot because your oven was inoperable. We spent a ton of time reconnecting as a family. Maybe I should institute a "DO NOTHING DAY" once a month at least and do just that...NOTHING! A novel idea!

Other than the juggling I do daily, having two children is a dream. When I was pregnant I worried that my heart wouldn't be big enough, but that is not a problem. God knows what he is doing. My daughter is an amazing big sister and a great helper. She is like his second mother. The other day she told me I had to put socks on him to go to school so his feet wouldn't be cold...I wasn't concerned about this, but she was...needless to say...he wore socks that day!

As for me, I am learning to be more flexible, especially since I am breastfeeding and pumping at work. Stress does not help your milk supply! I have resolved to stay in the free milk business as long as the Lord allows. I am also going to venture into making my own baby food in a few months. I was blessed with a Baby Bullet (the sister machine to the amazing Magic Bullet that I already own), and I am planning to make food from fresh fruit and veggies instead of giving Gerber all of my money...right now!

I also have a crazy idea...to me...to try cloth diapers. Many moms at weekly mommy meetings use cloth diapers religiously. I have not reconciled the entire plan in my head, but I have purchased my first diaper and am preparing to use it...soon. In the words of my sister-in-law...I am becoming a tree-hugger!

The most interesting thing about having two is a question I was asked by a co-worker. She asked me what is the difference between my two children when they were infants, and I honestly had to say that not much is different between them...I am the one that is different. With my first child I had no idea what I was doing. I was scared of making the wrong decisions...breaking her...torturing her with my inability to parent properly. With my son I know more...am more flexible (not letting my type-A personality get in the way too much)...and realize that God made infants pretty resilient in order to live with adults like us. I pray a lot more when I parent...for my milk supply...for guidance in discipline...for what to cook daily....for enough sleep at night...I pray a lot more as a parent of 2.

The most asked question I am posed with is...will you have more. Thankfully I had a great birth experience with my son...not by choice. My labor was about 3 hours total. From the moment I arrived at the hospital to when I gave birth was about 30 minutes. I missed the drug window...came in at 8 centimeters. Pushed out a 9 lb 2 oz baby with ease...three pushes! Within an hour after birth I felt pretty good...no pain! I surprised myself. What I learned from the experience is that God really did make me to birth babies, and He will never put more on me than I can bear. I can do all things through Him. So in the words of Michelle Dugger of "19 Kids and Counting" the TLC show..."If God chooses to bless us with another child we will happily accept the blessing. We would be honored to be parents of God's gift." If, when, or how this will happen is not up to us, and even though it seems like something we couldn't handle, I realize that He knows me better than myself. I look to the source for my answers and direction. This new perspective on life really offers me a lot of peace and joy. I welcome all who are considering following God to give it a try. His burdens are light in comparison to the "junk" we put on ourselves!

If I could only find time to write...

2011-06-10T14:31:00.000-05:00

...pray for me...I intend to be back real soon.

A Lot of Kicking Going On

2010-10-14T07:41:00.002-05:00

Let's just say it is a little weird to feel something moving in you all the time. I don't remember the sensation that much with my daughter, but this little boy is a mover and a shaker. It is great to know he is ok in there, but sometimes it startles me when he moves.

The Verdict Is In...

2010-09-24T10:49:00.000-05:00

It's a BOY!

Now I must do two things...

1. Prepare for the biggest garage sale in our history.
2. Go to the store so I don't bring home a naked baby!

Wish me luck. We are so blessed.

Picture Day

2010-09-22T18:53:00.000-05:00

Today was picture day at my daughter's school...and I was not excited about it. I really wanted to be excited, but I find it hard to do at 5:30 am. I am more stressed about what she is going to wear, how to do her hair, and what shoes she is going to wear. My biggest issue is figuring out how I am going to keep her hair "together" until the pictures are taken. So at 6:00 am I wake her up, change my mind about what she is going to wear, find out that the shoes I wanted her to wear are too small, and am indecisive about which socks best match her outfit because some of the pictures are full body. Once I settle on the outfit, hair and new shoes we are ready to go at 6:25 am. I drop her off at school looking so cute, but now the things that are racing through my mind are...what time will the pictures be taken and will she spill milk on her dress before her turn. When I leave the school it dawns on me as I ride to the park and ride that I will have no idea how she looked in the pictures until many weeks later, and then I will be forced to determine if I want to buy the "so-so" pictures or have some done myself at the local JCPenny. I decided to leave that decision with the Lord. Upon arriving to school to pick her up she is playing on the playground, sweaty, the lace is broken on one sock, her knees are rusty, and her hair is all over the place. I sigh in disbelief...could this be the same cute child I dropped off this morning?! I decide the best course of action is to take a deep breath, hope the pictures were taken before she looked like "that" and wait for the proofs. Then the teacher informed me that the pictures were taken after nap time...oh no...without a scarf...now I am really nervous. I am sure her hair was a mess. Ugh. Picture Day!!!!!

Bowling with the Family

2010-09-20T07:45:00.000-05:00

This weekend we went bowling for the first time in a very long time. When I was a child my mother and I used to bowl weekly at the 99 cent a game bowling alley right by our house. I even have my own bowling shoes! (NOTE: It has been a LONG time since I bowled...and that was evident when the soles of my very own bowling shoes began to come off during the first frame!) I was excited to take my three-year old daughter to bowl for the first time, and she was probably more excited. We have a toy bowling set we play with at home, but this is the real thing! I was also concerned about bowling with a bowling ball of my own in my belly! Could I balance to roll that big ball down the lane? In light of this concern, my daughter and I bowled with the same 6 lb ball. She bowled a 52! I bowled a 103! Yes, we did use the bumpers!

In all it was a great experience, and one that I was glad to pass on to my daughter. Perhaps she will get her own shoes one day!

I'm Back

2010-09-18T11:06:00.000-05:00

I have been away...but now I am ready to write. My excuse for being away...and it is a good one...I am five months pregnant. Between nausea and fatigue, writing has not been my primary concern. I am so sorry to those who read my posts daily. I was also very concerned about "letting the cat out of the bag" regarding my pregnancy to you on the blog before all of our immediate family was notified. So now I am ready to tell the world. We are one week from determining the sex of our baby, and I am a little nervous. We currently have a daughter, and if this baby is a girl then our clothing situation is solved; however if the baby is a boy...we have a problem...a naked baby. Friday is the big day...I will update you on the results that evening.

At this very moment my very devoted and loving husband is painting the children's room. The 3 year old and the baby will be moving in together. He found a great green color that will work for a boy and a girl...or two girls.

So look forward to new content and updates on the baby. Talk to you soon.

MLBC - Discussion #1 - Ex-Files

2010-06-23T09:08:00.000-05:00

Welcome back book club members. I gave you a couple of extra days, but now it is time to chat about our most recent book "The Ex Files" by Victoria Christopher Murray.

Let's begin by getting your initial comments on the book and the characters. I had a hard time getting started with the book because I had to get to know so many characters, but once I got started I could not stop. Honestly, I was a little disappointed with how the story ended, but I guess that just leaves room for a sequel.

Leave a comment, and let's begin our discussion of "The Ex Files."

A Parting Video

2010-05-28T09:56:00.000-05:00

Video of the Week is one of my favorite segments...and it is only fitting that it be my last post for a while. This is the video that my entire family loves. It is my pick for the month. I also think it is my husband's secret way of getting me to like the one things I refuse to buy...a minivan.

Hilarious!!!

(LYRICS)

[INTRO MOM AND DAD]

Yeah

This one goes out to all you minivan families out there.
Sienna SE...in the house.
Where my mother/fathers at?
Where my kids at?

Where my kids at?
Where my kids at?
Where my kids at?
Where my kids at?
Where my kids at?

No, seriously honeywhere are the kids?
They're right there, see?
Oh, cool beans.

[VERSE DAD]
I roll hard through the streets and the cul-de-sacs,
Proud parent of an honor roll student, Jack.
I got a swing in the front, a tree house in the back,
My #1 Dad mug says, Yeah, Im the Mack.

[VERSE MOM]
I'm the world's best nurse when my kids get sick,
I make a mean gel-mold, I perfected my tricks,
Back when I used to party as a college chick.
Now I'm cruising to their playdates lookin' all slick...

[CHROUS]
In my Swagger Wagon,
Yeah, the Swagger Wagon,
It's the Swagger Wagon,
I got the pride in my ride.
In my Swagger Wagon,
Yeah, the Swagger Wagon,
It's the Swagger Wagon.

[VERSE DAD]
Check it...

I love hangin' with my daughter sippin' tea, keep my pinky up,
All the drawings on my fridge sport an A+.
I'm an awesome parent, (Right!) and it's apparent, (True!)
And in this house there's no mother/father swearin'.

[VERSE MOM]
Straight owning bake sales with my cupcake skills,
I'm better with the money, so I handle the bills,
And I always buy in bulk, ain't afraid of no spills.
Every Mother's Day proves...I'm kind of a big deal.

Daughter: Mommy, I need to go potty.

Bring the beat back, 'cause, yo, I got more to say,
You know I'm always front and center at the school play.
I kiss their boo-boos, clean doggie doo-doos,
Cut the crust off of PB&Js, chill the Yoo-hoos.

[VERSE DAD]
Singin' "Farmer in the Dell" in perfect harmony,
When I'm rollin' with my posse in the HOV.
We rock the SE, not an SUV,
And it's true, if I were you, I'd be jealous of me...

[CHORUS]

A Little Break & MLBC Book Annoucement

2010-05-27T09:46:00.000-05:00

I have decided to take a break from blogging for now. Things are very busy with work and home, and I need to maintain focus in those areas. I will return shortly better than ever.

MLBC - My Life Book Club lives on! The next book will be Victoria Christoper Murray's The Ex Files. Reading starts June 6th and will end on June 21st. Check back here for discussion questions.

In Murray's powerful testament to Christian fellowship and friendship (after 2006's A Sin and a Shame), four members of an L.A. prayer group find spiritual growth and heartache as they struggle with broken dreams. Drawn together by Hope Chapel's Pastor Beverly Ford, these African-American women stand at crossroads in their lives. For Sheridan Hart it's trying to choose between marrying her lover or going back to the bisexual Ex who left her for a man. Kendall Stewart deals with her rage over her younger sister and Ex falling in love, but must make a life or death choice when her sister becomes seriously ill. Asia Ingram wants revenge on the father of her six-year-old daughter, a retiring, married LA Laker who's decided to end their decade-long affair. Vanessa Martin copes badly in the aftermath of her husband Reed's shocking suicide, grappling with a growing depression that threatens her ability to go on. The engrossing transitions the women go through make compelling reading, but some readers might find some of Pastor Ford's wisdom a little off as she assures Sheridan that Quentin, her bi-sexual Ex, "wasn't born that way." Still, Murray's vivid portrait of how faith can move mountains and heal relationships should inspire her growing conservative fan base.

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Devotional Recap 2

2010-05-18T18:24:00.000-05:00

For those who didn't see my initial Devotional Recap post, check it out here.

From Saturday, May 1^st
Title: Is God Disciplining You?
Scripture: Hebrews 12:6 – "The Lord disciplines those he loves."

Devotional Thought: "God's correction is not rejection…No discipline is enjoyable while it is happening – it is painful! But afterward there will be a peaceful harvest of right living for those who are trained in this way. (Heb 12:7-11)"

From Sunday, May 2^nd
Title: Three Stages In Your Walk With God
Genesis 22:4 – "Abraham lifted his eyes."

Devotional Thought: "…three stages in your walk with God: (1) When God reveals Himself to you. (2) When God points you in the right direction. (3) When God provides in ways that amaze you….When you're where God wants you to be, He will meet your every need."

From Monday, May 3^rd
Title: A Good Conscience
Scripture: Acts 23:1 – "I have lived in all good conscience before God."

Devotional Thought: "Your conscience is like a motion detector letting you know that a thief has entered your home intending to rob, or even kill you…keep your conscience in good repair. Respond to its warnings. Be guided by its instructions. Make sure that at all times it's grounded in Scripture."

All of the devotions excerpts from "The Word for you Today – Strength and Guidance for Daily Living" published by World Hope Ministries of Houston, Texas. (http://www.worldhopeministries.org/)

Garden Update

2010-05-16T14:41:00.000-05:00

Bad news…my garden is suffering. I think I am going to have to abandon my initial idea of planting seeds, and move to transplants. I made it past phase one, making something grow, but things got very complicated after that. Watering was different for each type of plant in my garden, and I couldn't balance the watering of the plants with the watering of the grass. Therefore, when my husband watered the grass some of my plants suffered. However, I have not given up hope. I am going to go to Lowe's (or some equally good plant store) and get transplants. I may have to plant my "sensitive" plants in separate pots. I am going to try again. I have more seeds and a lot of determination. I will keep you up to date.

Someone Should’ve Told Me

2010-05-15T14:31:00.000-05:00

As I grow I learn…and as I learn I pass along to you. I am a fan of shows that follow the lives of friends. Examples are Sex in the City (the movie or the WB version – I am too sensitive for the HBO version), Let's Talk about Pep, and Why Did I Get Married (Tyler Perry). I love the idea of friends sticking together through the good and the bad, and always having someone to talk to or lean on. I am often jealous (sorry to say) of these types of friendships mostly because I don't have a group like this of my own. Someone should've told me that these friendships are hard to come by and are often established when you don't have "young" children.

When I looked into this friendship phenomenon further I noticed that they all have two things in common. First is the lack of "young" children, and two, age. All of my favorite friend show characters do not have children under 5 years old. A good theory for why this exists is that you don't have time for friendships when you have children that young. You probably are a "bad" friend when you have little time because friendship must be cultivated. If I am honest, I would have to agree that time is something I don't really have to lend right now. I have just enough time to eat, work, sleep, cook, clean, be a mom, and be a wife. I try to keep in touch, but it is not that easy during this phase in my life. Luckily I have a small group of understanding friends that realize life happens, and don't take it personally if they don't hear from me in a few weeks.

Another factor is my age, which almost lines up with the young children theory. All of my shows depict friendship circles where the members are in a different phase of life than I am. They are generally in their mid to late 30s or older. These people normally have older children and more time. I have settled with the fact that I just don't fit the criteria right now.

Another honorable mention is distance or geographical location. If you don't live by your friends you can't see them as much – simply stated. My closest friends live on the other side of town or in another city. It is hard to gather for the everyday pleasantries when you have to spend most of your time in the car traveling.

With all of this in mind, I have determined that it is alright to be without the friendship circle for now. I will wait my turn…grow up…raise my children…and maybe then my circle will come. Someone should've told me that making and keeping friends is just as hard as an adult as it is during childhood.

Where Have I Been?

2010-05-13T08:13:00.001-05:00

I have been around...here and there...meeting after meeting...and basking in Mother's Day relaxation mode. I just want to assure you that I am doing ok. Family is ok. Everything is fine. I have been searching for inspiration, and I think I have finally found it. Thank you for being patient with me.

I pray you are having a great week and have wonderful plans for the weekend.

Talk to you soon.

Devotional Recap

2010-05-07T09:43:00.001-05:00

I have been reading a daily devotional from World Hope Ministries (read more here), and I have been so blessed it. I would love to share a bit of what has blessed me in hopes of returning the favor. If you have not started your daily devotional...start here. It is short, sweet, but very fulfilling. Remember the key to devotion is honesty. God knows. Enjoy.

From Thursday, April 29th
Title: Character
Scripture: Matthew 7:24 "Anyone who listens...and follows...is...like a person who builds a house on solid rock."

Devotional Thought: "Are you putting all your efforts into maintaining an image while neglecting foundational things such as your attitude, your integrity and your God-given purpose?...When you make these things the foundation of your life you'll make it through any storm."

From Friday, April 30th
Title: In Church - But Lonely
Scripture: Psalm 142:4 "No man cared for my soul."

Devotional Thought: "Pastor, if your greatest concern on Monday is 'how many people did we have in church yesterday?' check your heart. You may be more concerned with your own image than meeting people's needs...Many of those who come to church aren't looking for profound answers, they just want to feel cared for."

From Saturday, May 1st
Title: Is God Disciplining You?
Scripture: Hebrews 12:6 "The Lord disciplines those he loves."

Devotional Thought: "God's correction is not rejection. His disapproval of your actions is not disapproval of you...If God doesn't discipline you as he does all his children, it means that your are illegitimate and are not really his at all."

From Sunday, May 2nd
Title: Three Stages in Your Walk with God
Scripture: Genesis 22:4 "Abraham lifted his eyes."

Devotional Thought: The three stages in your walk with God: "(1) When God reveals Himself to you...(2) When God points you in the right direction...(3) When God provides in ways that amaze you...When you're where God wants you to be, He will meet your every need."

From Wednesday, May 5th
Title: In the Refiner's Fire
Scripture: Malachi 3:3 "He will sit like a refiner of silver."

Devotional Thought: "Are you in the refiner's fire today?...just sit still and let the refiner do His work...remember: (a) He knows what He's doing, so trust Him. (b) He won't allow you to be destroyed by the circumstances, or take His eye off you. (c) When the process is complete, you'll be more like Jesus and less like your old self...Isn't that what you've prayed for?

Extrra Note: This devotional is so powerful. It tells a woman's story of visiting a silversmith. She asked him a very important question about the process of refining silver, "'How do you know when the process is complete? Smiling, he replied, 'That's easy; I see my face reflected in it.'" WOW...now that is good!

Happy...

2010-05-05T08:31:00.000-05:00

Happy Cinco de Mayo (I am from Texas...we always celebrate the holiday. We also see great Mexican restaurant specials today!)

and

Happy Anniversary Sis and Brother in Law! Have a great day.

The Rules...

2010-05-04T13:03:00.000-05:00

I came across this list yesterday, it was hanging in my laudry room, but it came from my teenage years. (I remember it hanging outside of my door at my mom's house.) I thought it was amusing, and would be nice to share.

The Rules...

The female always makes the rules.
The rules are subject to change at anytime, without prior notification to the male.
No Male can possibly know all the rules.
If the female suspects the male knows some or most of the rules she must immediately change some or all of the rules.
The female is never wrong.
If the female seems to be wrong it is because of a misunderstanding caused by something the male did or said, which was wrong.
If the previous rule applies, the male must immediately apologize for causing the misunderstanding.
The female may change her mind at any time.
The male must never change his mind without express, prior, written consent from the female.
The female has the right to be angry or emotionally upset at any time.
The male must remain calm at all times, unless the female wants him to become angry or emotionally upset.
The female must not let the male know whether she wants him to become angry or emotionally upset.
Any attempt to document the validity of these rules could result in bodily harm to the person attempting such documentation.
If the female has PMS, all rules are null and void at her discretion.

Springbook Publications, Inc.

MLBC Final Discussion

2010-05-01T13:00:00.001-05:00

Thank you so much for participating in the My Life Book Club. Our inaugural book selection "What Doesn't Kill You" was wonderful, and I really enjoyed the discussion. (A special thanks for the authors Virginia DeBerry and Donna Grant for recognizing our little book club.) I know we can't all be together, but this has to be the next best thing.

For our final discussion I would like to focus on Tee's definition of marriage. This question comes from the reading guide in the back of the book, and it is a very interesting one that will surely bring forth great discussion.

"When Tee recounts her marriage, she distinguishes between the dreamy stage of love and the 'reality portion that set in… The part about what's for dinner? Who's doing the laundry? And what time are you coming home?' Do you agree with this distinction?" So let's talk about marriage. Is there a dreamy stage and a reality stage? If so, how do you deal with the transition from one to another? When does the transition happen? Why would the stages exist? If not, is marriage rooted in one stage or the other? No stage at all? What advice would you give Tee about marriage…to Ron? (I am being optimistic!)

Even if you didn't read the book, leave a comment. Let me know how you view the "stages" (or lack thereof) in marriage, and what advice you would give to those contemplating marriage.

Garden Update 2

2010-04-30T21:56:00.000-05:00

It's been almost a month, and the garden is coming along well. Green is coming up in every square. This is amazing as my primary focus was to get something to grow. I was very worried that I would do all of this work and nothing would sprout. Thanks to a little God water, rain, the garden is making progress, and the progress is much faster than I anticipated. Phase one is complete. Now I have new worries…what happens next? I spent all of my planning time making sure my soil was correct and my box was built to specifications. I chose my vegetable types with care, and have been diligent in my watering and maintenance. I was even worried about the garden when we went to Surprise, Arizona, but luckily God answered my prayers and let it rain while I was gone. Now I water and wait, but how will I know it is time to harvest? What will it look like? How do you harvest it? I guess I will have to go back and reread that part of the book. Please continue to pray for me and the garden. Here are a few pictures and a list of what I have planted.

Note: The last picture shows my "hybrid" plant. I accidently put two seeds in one square. Ooops. So I have a basil/pepper plant...they are fighting for the square right now. We will see who wins!

Squash
Peppers
Lettuce (Romaine)
Lettuce (Green Leaf)
Basil
Oregano
Tomato
Carrots
Onion

Daily Word

2010-04-29T09:53:00.000-05:00

About two months ago I confiscated a daily meditation book from my husband. I wanted something to read on the bus that would enhance my relationship with God. It only takes a few minutes, but I have found it to be very helpful. It's called "The Word for You Today – Strength and Guidance for Daily Living" and it is produced by World Hope Ministries. I believe we received our copy for free by making a donation online at http://www.worldhopeministries.org/.

I wanted to share a sample of the word from Tuesday, April 27^th, and I encourage you to request your copy and read along with me. The scripture referenced is Isaiah 40:31 "They will soar…They will run…They will walk." The major point of the reading was that "Faith doesn't exempt us from life's seasons; it just enables us to go through them victoriously." What season are you in? Are you a flier, a runner or a walker?

If you are a flier you are being "blessed by God and experiencing success beyond your natural abilities." If you are a runner you "thank God you are still in the race…your time will come." If you are a walker "Some days pain, discouragement and fatigue make it impossible to fly high or run; all you can do is walk without fainting…Walking counts with God."

I now know I have been through all of the seasons at some point in time, and it is ok. I made it out of the walking stage, kept my stamina up in the running stage, and soared in the flying stage. Every day with the Lord is a blessing. Be encouraged today.

Here is a great country song by Chris Young...love it...just keep moving towards the man/woman God wants you to be.

Someone Should’ve Told Me

2010-04-28T14:57:00.000-05:00

Couponing is very interesting to me and has been a benefit to my family and our budget. I have clipped and organized, combed the internet for deals, and submitted countless mail in rebates. I am now tired. I have also realized that most of the things that are on sale, or freebies, I have already purchased. I have come to realize that I don't need another tube of toothpaste, or another toothbrush. I have enough floss to hold me for about a year or more. I have enough bars of soap, good quality soap, to wash my entire family and guests for about a year. I have more cleaning supplies than I have house to clean. Let's just say I am stocked up! After this realization I discovered that couponing, even for couponaholics, goes in cycles. I know that sales go in cycles, but I had no idea that my stockpile would go in cycles too. Couponing is really only fun if you are getting things you need or want for "rock bottom prices," but now that I have all of those things, thank God, what do I do now? Someone should've told me that it is ok to stop "major" couponing for a while.

Yesterday, I went to Walgreens and I did not have the urge to flip my register rewards. This is very unlike me. All I wanted to do was buy something at a good price and use my rewards to get the price even lower. I went to the clearance isle and discovered some great children's toys for 50% off. The toys would go great in my gift closet for birthday parties we are invited to. I also found a great set of books with a read along CD for my daughter. I got them all for $7.55 and I was overjoyed. I was also excited to finally rid myself of the register rewards. Walgreens register rewards are hard to keep up with, which is probably why I have never blogged about them. There are so many rules associated with using them, and it takes a lot of effort to get great deals. Now don't get me wrong, great deals come with register rewards, but you will have to work for it. The register rewards also expire very soon after you get them, much sooner that CVS extra bucks, therefore you are always looking for ways to flip them. Once I realized that the items that were offering register rewards were already in my stockpile in mass quantity, I decided to let the rewards, and the work associated with them, go for now. My CVS extra bucks will probably disappear soon too because truth be told, I think my house has everything a drug store has to offer.

Contrary to my initial thoughts about couponing the theory is not "go hard or go home". It is more like "get what you need now and come back when you need more." I will stop my major couponing for now, but will start again when my stockpile warrants it. I will not post deals on my blog while I am "off" (too tempting), but I do encourage you to build your stockpile as needed. Visit the blogs I used to read with fury and get your pantry ready for battle. I will still shop with coupons, but I will not do all of the grand research I once did until I need too. Sales go in cycles and so does couponing.

Happy Birthday Nay!

2010-04-27T08:00:00.001-05:00

Happy Birthday Nay! We love you.

Happy Birthday Daddy

2010-04-26T23:18:00.000-05:00

Happy Birthday Daddy! Love you.

Surprise...We Made It

2010-04-23T01:01:00.001-05:00

We have survived the trip to Surprise, Arizona. All I have to say is WOW. I will take pictures and post them upon my return. At this point in the trip I will have to say Surprise has been eye opening. I can't wait to see what tomorrow brings. For now...good night. More to come tomorrow.

Video of the Week

2010-04-20T21:47:00.002-05:00

OK. I will admit that American Idol falls short this year, but I just love Crystal Bowersox. I don't know why the competition continues when she IS the winner. I will buy her first album. Take a look.

P.S. - If you saw her performance tonight...oh my...that girl can sing!

MLBC Discussion #4

2010-04-20T10:57:00.000-05:00

Let's continue our discussion.

In one particular scene where Tee is trying to analyze all her problems, she says "…ignorance is not bliss. It just means that when life slaps you upside your head you can say, 'Where'd that come from?' and halfway believe yourself." How do you interpret this thought? Do you agree that ignorance is simply an excuse?
Tee sees herself as a voice from the past whose message serves as a warning to a new generation: "And I'm writing [my story] all down…so I can give my grandbaby a word or two of advice, not that they'll listen. Some things you just have to learn for yourself." What message would you tell the next generation? What warning did your parents give to you that you just "had to learn for yourself" and couldn't take their word for it?

Portions of the questions for this discussion came from the Touchstone Reading Group Guide found at the end of the novel "What Doesn't Kill You."
Leave a comment at the bottom of this post.

Where Have I Been?

2010-04-19T08:22:00.000-05:00

I am sure you realize by now that I have been ghost for a few days. I have plenty of good excuses lined up, but the bottom line is I was a little busy. I normally post on my blog at night, but lately I have been too tired to do so. When faced with typing or sleeping, I seem to choose sleeping. I apologize for not keeping up my end of the deal, posting daily, but I do hope you understand and can find it in your heart to forgive me. It was not personal.

For this post, my catch up post, I would like to update you on a few things that have been going on in my life. Perhaps a peek into why I have been so tired lately.

My garden. There are many sprouts now. My daughter and I are diligent about watering every day. She is a great helper, a little messy with the water, but if I forget she always reminds me. Every square has something green popping out, and the squash is really growing quickly. I have not surpassed phase one of my garden…making something grow. Now I am nervous about what to do next. I will have to do a little more reading to feel confident that I know how to harvest each crop when it is time. How will I know it is time? I don't want to pick too early or too late. Either way, keep praying for my crops. I am very hopeful and excited about the possibilities.
My floors. Saturday we have the carpet in the house cleaning for only the second time since we purchased the house six years ago. The first time was last year, and we committed to continue the tradition in order to keep our light colored carpet in good working order. We use a company called Texas Best, and have been very satisfied. The process is not a steam clean, which puts water into the pad under the carpet and generally just hides the dirt, but a topical cleaning process. Texas Beat has been able to remove all stains in our carpet, and brings life back into our light colored carpet. They are also cheaper than the other companies in the business. (Not like you didn't see that coming. We had a coupon too!) Also, for the last two years they have sent the same person to our house, and the carpet dries in about an hour. Great service which I highly recommend.
Our anniversary. Yesterday was our sixth wedding anniversary. My mom came and took care of my daughter, and my husband and I took the night off. It was wonderful. We didn't do anything different than we would normally do with a night out (movies and dinner), but we really enjoyed each other's company. We did see the new Tyler Perry movie at the theater of our first movie date. We didn't buy gifts this year, and I really enjoyed that believe it or not. We are very hard to shop for, and gifts can not accurately reflect what our anniversary means to us. We agreed on a house gift, and used our day to spend time talking without interruption. It was very nice. Just like the old days.
Our new appliance. While the carpet was being cleaned my husband installed our house gift…a new energy efficient dishwasher. We realized that we use our loud, contractor grade dishwasher every day, and it was on our list of upgrades for the house. Also, Texas is offering a rebate for upgrading to more energy efficient appliances, so our decision was almost a no brainer. I really like our new Maytag, and I know it will make my dish duty a little easier.
Soccer…not yet. Saturday my daughter and I went to cheer on one of her classmates at his YMCA soccer game. I have been researching this activity, but I jumped at the opportunity to see it in action. I was concerned about my daughter's age and her ability to really enjoy soccer at three years old. So her classmate's mom invited us out to see for ourselves. To make a long story short, we will wait until next Spring for soccer. My daughter and her friend were very excited to see each other as both had been waiting for this moment all week. Her friend got out there and practiced before the game, and we watched and cheered. Then the game started, and her friend would not play…under any circumstances (or bribes). My daughter's friend was convinced that they were supposed to play together instead of play soccer. We tried all game to get him to play, but no luck. So they played on the sidelines, his dad coached, and everyone was happy. I am going to apologize to his mom for being distracting; however I have been assured by his dad that his lack of play was fairly normal. We all agree that three years old is just too young.
Little Gym. My favorite thing from last week was also on the agenda for Saturday. My daughter had a wonderful time, and another one of her classmates joined her class. They both seemed to really enjoy being in class that day. I also enjoyed having a friend to talk to outside of class. Also, I won a prize for signing my daughter up for the next two semesters…yippie…I never win any prizes.
Arizona. Our family is headed out to a mini-vacation this weekend. We are going to support my mom as she plays tennis in Surprise, Arizona. Yes, I had to look it up on the map, but it only about 45 minutes outside of Phoenix. I think we are all excited for this break from the norm. I will take pictures and let you know how it all goes. My daughter loves plane rides!
Mopping…not really. So many of you know I have discussed my shortcomings here on the blog, and as an update I would like to address mopping again. Most know that I did not mop, nor did I really know how to mop…so I tried my hand at it. Well, I have not done it again. Yikes. I Swiffer because that is what I am good at, and when I need to have the floor mopped…I ask my husband to do it…and he graciously obliges. I want to do better, really I do, but I will need more prayers on this one.
Book Club. Thank you so much to those who have made it through our first book club reading. The book was wonderful, and I have many more discussions planned. Please keep an eye on the blog for our next discussion question. I am researching our next book selection as we speak, and I will let you know more as the time draws near.
Family and friends. As you get busier I know it becomes harder and harder to connect with family and friends. I really try hard to keep in touch, but I am not always successful. Just a word of advice if you are in the same boat…just do it. If someone crosses your mind, call or email. Take the first step. You will be glad you did.

Love you all. Have a great week.

MLBC Discussion #3

2010-04-15T16:45:00.003-05:00

The epigraph quotes at the beginning of each chapter are just wonderful. I enjoyed reading the chapter searching for their placement within the text. The are absolutely hilarious at times.

Out of the following epigraph quotes: 1) Which one did you like the most? 2) Which one best describes your life now? 3) Which one best describes your life 5 years ago? If you so choose...please elaborate.

If you didn't get to read the book, you can join in on this one. Which quote do you feel best describes your life now? and then?

Options

"...all you can do is mop up the aftermath, dump it in a giant personal hazmat container and move on." (Chapter 1)
"Ignorance is not bliss" (Chapter 4)
"...my turn to get up off my knees and strut my stuff." (Chapter 10)
"Some things are worth forgetting" (Chapter 12)
"Somebody scream!" (Chapter 15)
"...the only thing standing in my way is me..." (Chapter 16)

Video of the Week

2010-04-14T21:34:00.000-05:00

So funny. This baby is really trying to get her point across. I hope your week has been wonderful. If not, only two more days to go!

MLBC Discussion #2 - RON (Part 1)

2010-04-13T21:19:00.000-05:00

By popular demand it is time to discuss Ron. When Ron is first introduced, in the hotel with Tee, how did you view him? Did your view of Ron change as the time progressed? Do you think Ron is too young for Tee? Was Tee wrong for going out with Ron and playing the Gerald card when things got too HOT?

If this book were made into a Lifetime movie...who should play Ron? Any suggestions?

Let's talk. Leave a comment. What do you think about Ron?

My Life Book Club - Discussion #1

2010-04-12T21:40:00.000-05:00

So the day has come. It is time to have our first discussion. "What Doesn't Kill You" by DeBerry and Grant was a great read, and will surely offer a lot to talk about in the coming posts. For our first discussion I would love to hear your overall impression of the book. How did you like it? Was it an easy read for you? Is this book the same or vastly different from what you would normally read?

To leave a comment click on the title of this post "My Life Book Club - Discussion #1". Once the post opens, scroll to the bottom of the page to the comments section. Click on "Post a Comment" and you are ready to go. You can choose to identify yourself or not. It is up to you. If you see a post you would like to reply to, just post another comment and reference a fellow reader's post.

So let's begin. Tell me your first impressions of the book. I will post a discussion every few days, and see where it leads. Thanks for participating. (Remember the authors could be listening...read more here.)

A Few of My Favorite Things

2010-04-12T21:28:00.000-05:00

I apologize for the late post. I was experiencing technical difficulties yesterday.

Here is another one of my favorite things. (See original post here.)

The Little Gym is one of my favorite things. It is very hard to find quality acitivities for children that doesn't cost an arm and a leg. The Little Gym does wonders for my child and my budget. My daughter started in parent-child classes, and has now started going to class by herself. The Little Gym has given taught her teamwork, has boosted her self-esteem, and has given me an hour once a week of peace and quiet. I love watching her learn, and now I am beginning to see her advance with her gymnastics. If you are looking for a great place for children, I highly recommend The Little Gym.

Learn more by visiting their website - http://www.thelittlegym.com/

Top 5 - When It Rains

2010-04-10T23:38:00.000-05:00

Today it rained in Houston, and no one saw it coming...not even our very experienced weather forcasters. We were told that it would not rain for the next 7 days, and on day one...it did. So in honor of today's Spring showers, I present to you the top five reasons I love the rain.

Rainbows. My daughter loves them too. It is very refreshing to see a rainbow after the storm. (That could preach, but I will leave it alone. I am sure you get the picture.)
God Water. My garden loves water from on high. When it rained the other day the very next day I saw the first sprouts in my garden. There is something about the water from Him.
Sleeping/Relaxing. I love to here the rain pitter patter on the window...it is very calming. Maybe I should get one of those noise machines programmed with the rain. Great idea!
A good excuse. You can use the rain as a good excuse if you are running late, or you want to get out of an appointment. (I am not saying I do this, but it wouldn't be a bad idea.)
Wash away the old. There is something renewing about the rain. It washes dirt away. When you go outside after the rain things seem clean and refreshed. Perhaps a clean slate is what you need to get started again.

Honorable Mention - Umbrellas. I love them, but can't keep up with them to save my life. I have lost many...and I need a new one as we speak. The question is should I spend lots of money on a cute one I know I am likely to lose, or should I go cheap. Hmmmm.

Happy Saturday.

Thrifty Thursday (On Friday)

2010-04-09T21:34:00.000-05:00

A constant here at My Life As… is the Thrifty Thursday Deals of the Week. (This week on Friday.) Here are the rules I try to live by when compiling the deals:

I will list the best deal, in my opinion, for each store.
I will give you the item and the coupon you should clip and take to the store.
I will link back to the website I received the deal from so you can see more matchups.
I will try to stick to those items that are free or nearly free.

Happy Shopping!

Kroger – Week of 4/7 – 4/13
McCormick Grill Mates Spices – $1
-Use $1/1 McCormick coupon (Red Plum 3/14)
Final Price = FREE

Read more here.

Randall's (Safeway/Tom Thumb) - Week of 4/7 – 4/13
Prego Pasta Sauce - $1.25 (Limit 4)
-Use $.50/2 Prego coupon (Smart Source 2/7)
Final Price = $1.50 for 2

Read more here.

Also, grapes are 99 cents per pound finally!

Thanks Shellie.

Sorry...

2010-04-08T22:19:00.000-05:00

My mom is here tonight...enough said. Gotta catch up on Young and the Restless. (Read more here.)

My Square Foot Garden

2010-04-07T21:08:00.001-05:00

Here is a little info about my garden. It is not the normal garden, but it is just right for me. I learned about it while reading a post on a fellow blogger's website, Erin the $5 Dinner Mom. (Read more here.) She talks about her gardening method, and I thought it might work for me. I checked out the book, read it, and decided to jump in with both feet. The prospect of growing my own food it so exciting...and frugal. Here is the info on the book. (Here is the Amazon link, but it is cheaper and it shipped faster from Walmart.com here.)

Here is a video too...

You should try it! I will keep you up to date as things grow in my garden.

Video of the Week - Just Pictures

2010-04-06T21:40:00.001-05:00

No video this week...just pictures. The garden is complete and the seeds are in the ground. Take a look. Also, read my original post here. I will keep you updated as green appears...hoepfully.

The place where it all started.

My supplies. Box, dirt, tarp.

The seeds...a lot of them. Many different kinds.

Mel's Mix

My loving and supportive husband. Thanks honey.

It's done. Seeds are in...can't wait to see what happens.

My little helper...yes...in a Snow White dress. She insisted.

My Guilty Pleasure

2010-04-05T21:13:00.000-05:00

Something you might not know about me is I really enjoy watching the Young and the Restless. Yes it is a soap opera, and I have been watching it for years. The stories are interesting to me, and it gives me a minute to think about the lives of fictional characters whose lives are more messed up than mine will ever be. I rarely miss an episode. I DVR it at home, and I watch it online at cbs.com when I need to catch up quickly. When I watch it on DVR I know exactly how many commercial skips to use in order to get to the next segment. I got started with Y&R while watching with my mom, and I think she started by watching with her mom. I guess you can say it's tradition. Anyway, I really enjoy watching it because my mom still watches it too, and if we somehow have nothing else to talk about during our daily chat, rest assured Y&R will give us plenty to discuss. We love chatting about the characters and trying to guess what will happen next. We even say we are going to voice our opinions to the writers for how they are treating our favorite characters. I love Phyllis. She is a little bad, and always in trouble it seems, but I enjoy her character. My mom likes all of the black people, especially since they are the only five in Genoa City. We are very tired of Adam and could do without Gloria and Jeffery. I am always amazed that the writers never seem to run out of stories to tell. As a self-proclaimed writer, I hope to always have something to write about even if it's just my love for Y&R.

Happy Easter

2010-04-04T21:15:00.000-05:00

Resurrection Sunday - He is risen!

Today:

Church was wonderful

The Word was honest and right on time

The weather was beautiful

Family time was re-energizing

A great day. Jesus lives. Get to know Him...you won't regret it.

A Few of My Favorite Things

2010-04-03T21:51:00.000-05:00

Photo from one of my favorite movies - Sound of Music as they sing "My Favorite Things".

If Oprah has a list than so can I. I would like to share with you my favorite things. These things may come from various parts of my life (motherhood, wife, employee), but they all rank pretty high on my "gotta have it" list. This week I would like to share one of my favorite mommy things - the folding travel potty seat. I talked a little bit about this product in my potty training post (here), but here is a little more information on what it is and how to get it.

Mommy's Helper - Cushie Potty Seat Cover is my favorite on-the-go mommy thing for these reasons: (I have tried many options for traveling with a potty training child, and this is the only thing I have found to work time after time.)

It folds and can fit in a diaper bag.
It is soft and cushie (not hard like others).
It is sturdy. (I was concerned about a seats ability to hold my 30 lb daughter.)
It is cost effective. (Walmart.com - can't find it in stores, but it ships fast.)

Here is a photo and a link to the product. (Click here.) For $10 it was worth a shot, and it has been the best money I have spent towards potty training.

Good Friday

2010-04-02T23:47:00.000-05:00

Remember...

Thrifty Thursday

2010-04-01T21:42:00.000-05:00

A constant here at My Life As… is the Thrifty Thursday Deals of the Week. Here are the rules I try to live by when compiling the deals:

I will list the best deal, in my opinion, for each store.
I will give you the item and the coupon you should clip and take to the store.
I will link back to the website I received the deal from so you can see more matchups.
I will try to stick to those items that are free or nearly free.

Happy Shopping!

Randall's – Week of 3/31 - 4/6
Jimmy Dean Sausage Rolls - $4.29 (Buy One Get One Free)
Use Buy One Get One Free (Red Plum 3/28)
Final Price – 2 for FREE
*You may have to buy three depending on your store, but if you buy three you will get 3 for the price of 1.
There are even more good deals at Randall's this week. Read Shellie's list here.

STOCK UP ALERT! If you need liquid fabric softener, this is the time to get it for a very great price. Here a just a few of the stores with Snuggle deals this week. Read the entire list here.

NOTE: The coupon is regional so everyone did not get it. However, if you are the lucky one enjoy your stock up deal.

Target
Snuggle Fabric Softener – $3.99
Use $3/1 Snuggle coupon (Red Plum 3/28)
Final Price = $.99

Walmart
Snuggle Fabric Softener – $3.97
Use $3/1 Snuggle coupon (Red Plum 3/28)
Final Price = $.97

HEB
Snuggle Fabric Softener – $2.99
Use $3/1 Snuggle coupon (Red Plum 3/28)
Final Price = FREE

Thanks Shellie. Read about more great deals by visiting her website Saving with Shellie.

Video of the Week

2010-03-31T19:00:00.001-05:00

This is by far my favorite commerical right now. Every time I see the little girl's expression I can't help but laugh. She is too funny. Take a look, and happy Wednesday.

A Very Exciting Day

2010-03-30T21:34:00.000-05:00

As many of you know I have been blogging now for almost two months. I have enjoyed every minute of this experience, but today was the most exciting day of my little blogging life.

What started out as an ordinary morning of checking emails turned up a very exciting discovery. I have started a book club "My Life Book Club" in hopes of communicating with those who enjoy reading as I do. I announced the book club's inaugural selection on March 19^th as "What Doesn't Kill You" by Virginia DeBerry and Donna Grant, and today I received a comment on the blog post from the authors themselves. (Check it out here. - Scroll to comments section at the bottom of the page.) The authors thanked us for choosing them. I just about fell out of my chair after reading the comment. How did they know we were reading their book? I am so excited.

Now for many I am sure this is no big deal, but to me it is huge. It means people actually read my blog. When you sit at a computer and don't actually see others reading your words it can sometimes be discouraging, but reading that comment today was all of the encouragement I need. So "My Life Book Club" members…keep reading. Enjoy the story, and enjoy posting your comments on this blog. The authors may be listening.

Ready, Set, Go - My Life Book Club

2010-03-29T21:19:00.000-05:00

Today is the day. Let's get started! MLBC is off an running. Here is what you need to know to get started:

Book Selection: "What Dosen't Kill You" by DeBerry and Grant

About the Book:

“I really thought I had a handle on life—then it broke off.”

Straight-talking and witty, Tee is a fly forty-something. Divorced since her daughter was young, Tee has been “handling her business,” and she’s done all right. Organized, responsible and loyal, Tee went from being the first employee of a start-up purveyor of organic lotions to the right-hand of the president of what became a major player in the home and personal fragrance market.

But then everything changes and for he first time in 25 years, Tee doesn’t know who she is or what she’s going to do. She spent her life investing her hopes and dreams in someone else’s. Now it’s her chance to invest in herself. Can she step out on faith and a dream?

About the Authors:
With five novels to their credit, Virginia DeBerry and Donna Grant, best friends for 25 years, have turned a friendship into the most successful and enduring writing collaboration in African American fiction.

Begin Reading - March 29, 2010

Complete Reading - April 12, 2010 (As agreed - two weeks for reading.)

Follow this blog for discussion questions and prizes!

A Prayer for Avery

2010-03-28T21:53:00.000-05:00

This morning while at church the Pastor brought up a young couple about my age and we prayed for them. The husband, wife and little baby are facing a very challenging situation. The baby, not more than 4 months old, is going to have open heart surgery this Thursday. Her name is Avery, and she is beautiful.

I am asking that you add Avery to your prayer list. Please keep her parents in your prayers as well for strength during this time. I cannot imagine what the family is going through right now, but I do know that the prayers of the righteous avail much. If you believe in the power of prayer, I ask that you pray for Avery this week. I do not know their last name, and I do not know the full extent of Avery's illness. What I do know is that a God knows, and He is much bigger than any of our problems.

Take it to God. Take everything to Him in prayer. May God strengthen you as well during your time of struggle.

Top 5 - Sunny Day Edition

2010-03-27T23:06:00.000-05:00

So it is very late for people like me who think about going to bed at 9 pm, and the reason I am up do late can be blamed on the amazing weather we are having in Houston today. I did clean the house this morning, but after that it was time to soak up the sun. In honor of sunny days, I would like to offer my list of the top 5 things I LOVE about sunny days. (Along with a couple of things I am not too fond of.)

Sandals and flip flops. I guess that means it is time for a pedicure.
Sunglasses. I love wearing sunglasses. The problem I usually run into is finding them, and finding them in one piece. My three year old is a fan of sunglasses too. She has her own pair in a sunglass holder in my car. If I put mine on then she must put hers on.
Water. Swimming, the beach, the pool, water balloons, or even drinking a tall glass of water on a warm sunny day.
Rolling the windows down. With my sunglasses on, and my Carrie Underwood playing a little too loud. (Now you know that is when I am in the car by myself...when others accompany me it's the "choo choo" song all day long!)
Not having to turn on the AC. This would mean the sunny day is a spring day and not a hot Houston summer day. Anytime I can keep money in my pocket and away from the electric company is a good day.

Two things I don't enjoy...

Sunscreen. I know we must use it, but it is certainly a task to apply.
Having an appointment or having to work on the sunny day. Looking out of the window and seeing others enjoy what you long to enjoy is tough.

I hope you enjoy your sunny day.

Toy Story Deal

2010-03-26T21:08:00.000-05:00

My sister-in-law is very excited about this deal, so I thought I would pass it along to you. I think my daughter is too young and my step-son is too old to enjoy it, so I guess I just passed this deal right on by. However, there are some that would like to know about this super deal. So here you go.

Toy Story 1 and Toy Story 2

Toys R Us
(1) Toy Story 1 DVD & Blu-Ray Combo Pack $16.99
(1) Toy Story 2 DVD & Blu-Ray Combo Pack $16.99 (you must buy both to get this price)
- (2) $10/1 Toy Story Printable Coupons (if you already own the movie)
= $6.99 each! ($11.99 ea. with $5 coupons if you don't own the movie)

Thanks Stephanie. Visit the Couponing 101 post here and read the comments for a price match scenairo at Target with an even better price. Also check out the other stores with a Toy Story deal. Click here.

Good luck!

Thrifty Thursday

2010-03-25T20:45:00.000-05:00

A constant here at My Life As… is the Thrifty Thursday Deals of the Week. Here are the rules I try to live by when compiling the deals:

1. I will list the best deal, in my opinion, for each store.
2. I will give you the item and the coupon you should clip and take to the store.
3. I will link back to the website I received the deal from so you can see more matchups.
4. I will try to stick to those items that are free or nearly free.

Happy Shopping!

This week is a slow week for freebies. I only see a good deal at Kroger this week. Don't forget the Kroger March To Savings event (when you buy 8) continues. Check out Stephanie's post for more information.

Kroger Deal 3/24 to 3/30
Pillsbury Grands! Biscuits 98¢
- 30¢/2 Pillsbury Grands Biscuits Coupon (Smart Source 3/7/10)
= 68¢ ea.

Thanks Stephanie - Couponing 101. See the entire post here.

Also, Andrea at MommySnacks.net has two Kroger giftcards to give away on her blog. Click here to learn more about how to enter for your chance to win. You must enter by Sunday at 8 pm.

Good luck!

Video of the Week

2010-03-24T21:23:00.000-05:00

Sometimes as a mom you would like to change your name...and this is why.

Friday is coming. Hang in there.

I Want To Be Known As…

2010-03-23T21:47:00.000-05:00

I took a moment today to think about what I would love to have said about me at my funeral. I know that sounds a little dark, but just walk with me. I remember going to a funeral with my mom years ago, and I was absolutely touched by the things people had to say about my mom's friend. I listened to them all speak about this woman with such love and respect, and it was at that moment that I decided that I wanted to be remembered like that at my funeral. One of the things I want to be known as is – SELFLESS.

By definition SELFLESS means thinking of others first or putting other people's needs, interests, or wishes before your own. When I leave this earth destined for Heaven I hope the word SELFLESS is used to describe me. SELFLESS is certainly how I would describe Jesus, my greatest role model.

I think it is important to consider how you will be remembered because it will help you make decisions today. As a result I would like to present to you the top five ways I resolve to be more SELFLESS:

Pray more for others. I know I can be a little self-centered when it comes to praying by always talking to God about my problems. However, I can only imagine the power in praying for others. I resolve to spend more time focusing on the prayer requests of others.
Spend more time with family. Because my family is spread across the far reaches of this country it becomes hard to stay connected. I want to spend more time writing letters, sending cards, making phone calls, sending emails, and keeping up with this blog as a way to connect with family. I resolve to do these things no matter how busy my life may seem.
Listen more attentively. Being born in the microwave generation, fast and easy are our favorite words. I really want to spend more time listening. When my friends or family call on me, I resolve to spend more time listening to them and less time talking about myself.
Teach my children to be SELFLESS. It is really important to me to pass good character traits on to my children, and this is a great place to start. I resolve to take the time to teach SELFLESSNESS to my children daily. (Most importantly through my actions.)
Be as transparent as possible. I know this one seems strange, but I strongly feel that being an open book for others can help them through difficult times. People learn best from experience or from the experience of others, but how can they learn anything if we aren't willing to share. I know for a fact that there is no benefit in hiding who we are or pretending that we are something we are not. I want you to know about my mistakes so you will not make them yourself. We have to learn from one another, and I resolve to be open about my experiences, especially in this blog. If you want to know, just ask.

How do you want to be remembered at your funeral? Leave a comment.

Someone Should’ve Told Me

2010-03-22T22:04:00.000-05:00

Now that my daughter is three and I would officially call her potty trained, I realize that I was not told the whole truth when it came to potty training. Someone should've told me that potty training takes a really long time.

When I was pregnant I read all of the right books, and all of those books talked about potty training like it was "no big deal". I actually received my very first potty at a baby shower from my aunt, and I received my second potty as a gift for my daughter's first birthday. I purchased my third potty from Wal-mart to ride in the back of my SUV. I purchased my first potty seat cover from Target when my daughter was about two years old, and I bought my first folding travel potty seat cover shortly after that. I never realized that potty training required so much equipment. I ordered my free potty training DVD from the Pull Up people, and I had every type of Pull Up imaginable. I even had cute training panties. I knew I was ready to conquer this potty training thing.

Just for clarification, here is why I needed all of those potty supplies:

The baby shower potty #1 is the potty that is in the downstairs bathroom.
The potty seat #2 is the potty that is in the guest bathroom.
The Wal-mart potty #3 is the potty that is in the back of my SUV. (You will not believe me when I tell you that potty has been the most useful of all.)
The Target potty seat cover is for the bathroom in the master suit.
The folding travel potty seat, from Wal-mart too, was purchased out of necessity. (I had to do something to keep potty training up on our first trip away from home.)

Now what I wish someone would have let me in on about potty training:

Pull Ups are EVIL. They are just over priced pampers, and I would limit the use of them as much as possible.
The cute panties are nice, but not practical for potty training girls. Go for the square bottom potty training undies from Wal-mart. They come up and down easy, and have a little extra padding for the tiny accident.
Potty training takes a lot of time. It took my daughter about 8 months to get from her first tinkle to "fully potty trained".
Potty training takes scheduling. You always have to be aware of your potential bathroom break, and plan it into everything you do. (Enter potty seat in the SUV.)
Toilets in America are so nasty it will make your stomach turn. You will hate them even more when you have a potty training toddler to assist. My solution – Lysol disinfecting wipes, a folding travel potty seat, and Wet Ones.
The Pull Ups DVD is propaganda. It is not meant to do anything but make you feel warm and fuzzy. It's free, but take it with a grain of salt.
Potty training doesn't work if the child is not willing.
Your child WILL backslide during the potty training process. NO DOUBT ABOUT IT.
Going #1 and #2 are very different. My daughter would hide when it was time to do #2, and one day my husband and I watched her every move. She made a quick move towards her "spot", and we ambushed her and took her to the potty. #2 came out, and we cheered so loud that the neighbors could here. #2 in the potty from then on.
Night potty training can be hard, or it can be very easy…and I have no good reason why this is the case. We were blessed that our daughter did not have very many night accidents at all. Thank God for that.
Cheering is mandatory. You may sound like a crazy person to the individual in the stall next to you, but you must congratulate you child for a job well done. It will make them eager to do it over and over again. Conversely, you cannot harp on the accidents. Acknowledge them and move on. You will both be happier for it.
You will wash a ton of clothes during this potty training process. You will also wash some nasty clothes too. It's just part of the process. This too shall pass.

In all, the smile on my daughter's face when she realizes that she is a big girl and can go potty all by herself is well worth the challenges. The other great thing about having a potty trained child…say it with me gang…NO MORE BUYING DIAPERS! It is an expensive, but necessary part of life. You will be very glad to move on and use your money for other things.

How did your potty training go? If you are not there yet, what are you terrified about when it comes to potty training. Leave a comment.

Mickey Mouse Clubhouse – A Bible Lesson

2010-03-21T22:19:00.000-05:00

I know the title of this post in and of itself may be a little…confusing, but I am going to give this to you as God gave it to me this morning.

Being that I have a three year old daughter I am blessed to watch quite a bit of the Mickey Mouse Clubhouse on the Disney Channel. Overall the show is pretty predictable, so I was surprised when the Lord visited me during the episode this morning. I was arrested while viewing Mickey Mouse and the gang, and I was taught a lesson about how God works in the process.

For those of you who have been blessed to watch Mickey Mouse Clubhouse as well, you may be familiar with the following characters - MouseKadoer, MouseKatools, and Toodles. These elements appear in every episode of the show, and their primary role is to provide the items the characters need in order to complete the task of that episode. The MouseKadoer is the big machine that loads the MouseKatools into Toodles. A better way to look at it is the MouseKadoer is the hardware store and Toodles is the tool box and the MouseKatools are the tools in the toolbox. (Sorry for being so simple.) While looking at the show this morning something hit me…this entire setup is very similar to how God works in our lives. Follow me now.

When the episode starts the characters are presented with a problem, and they turn to the MouseKadoer (hardware store) as ask for MouseKatools. Then in flies Toodles (the tool box) to receive the tools from the MouseKadoer. At this point in the show the characters are unaware of how the tools will be used. All they know is that the tools are available. Mickey then informs the audience that if you encounter a problem and find yourself in need of a tool, all you have to say is Oh Toodles, and he flies right in with all of your potential tools. Oh Toodles only carries four tools. The thing that struck me about the MouseKadoer is that it appears unaware of the challenges the characters will face, yet it is fully able to fill Toodles with the correct MouseKatools. I have never seen an episode where Mickey and the gang call on Toodles and he has the wrong tools. Hmmm. Is the MouseKadoer psychic or something? How does it know what tools to pack in Toodles?

The second thing I notice is Toodles is always available. No matter where Mickey and the gang are, Toodles is always one shout away. The characters yell Oh Toodles, and it appears. They never appear nervous about whether or not Toodles will show up no matter where they are. Toodles has shown up when they were in the desert, the beach, and even in outer space. Toodles never lets them down, and they never hesitate to call on him.

Finally, I noticed that Toodles is called on whenever they have a situation, but he is not necessarily there immediately. Now if you have seen an episode you may beg to differ, but I question why Toodles comes in on a wave, or a pair of skies over the mountain top, or from under water. Toodles could just pop onto the screen and that would be that, but my question is why does it take so long.

Here is what I have surmised about the Mickey Mouse Clubhouse, and how it became a Bible Lesson this morning:

The MouseKadoer acts the way God would in our situation.
The MouseKatools are chosen for us in each task of life.
Toodles sure acts like the Holy Spirit, and is always dependable.

The fact that the MouseKadoer already has the knowledge of the tools Mickey will need to meet the challenge of the day reminds me of how God has the ability to equip me with the tools necessary to meet any challenge in my day. Nothing is too great for God. The fact that the MouseKatools are chosen for the characters before the challenge is met reminds me that God can tell me what equipment to use when I meet that challenge. I don't need to do this on my own, and He will not put more on me than I can bear. The fact that Toodles is always there for Mickey when he needs him reminds me that God sent the Holy Spirit to us as a guide. The Holy Spirit is just as accessible to the Christian as Toodles is to Mickey Mouse. All we have to do is call on Him.

We have to remember that God has equip us with all we need to get through life, however we often meet challenges and attempt to use the tools without reading the instructions, or just by picking a tool out of the box that "looks right" for the situation. We should consult God at every turn. We should ask Him which of our tools we should use. We should never doubt that He will answer.

The thing that struck me most was figuring out why Toodles sometimes appears to take the scenic route. This action reminds me that I must be patient and wait on the Lord. I first have to have enough faith to call on Him and believe that He will answer, but if the answer isn't immediate, then I must not lose faith. I have to wait for my answer. God is not on our time. I struggle with this, and most in our generation do simply because we have been taught to "get it now" and ask questions later. This is not how God would have it. Ask Him first, and wait on the answer. You will be glad you did.

God can meet you anywhere. Even in your living room while watching Mickey Mouse.

Have a great week!

My New Favorite Thing

2010-03-20T22:45:00.000-05:00

Some of you may be wondering how I keep up with all of the blogs you see listed on the left hand side of this post, and the answer is Google Reader. I have fallen in love with the application, but it was very new to me when I first started. Google Reader is yet another great way to stay connected and is part of the ever popular Google enterprise. I am a firm believer that Google is the best search engine around, and Google Reader lives up to the high quality standards I have come to expect from anything carrying the Google name.

The best way to describe Google Reader is an email for your blogs. The application gives you the ability to follow many blogs at one time, and read each post like an email. I follow all of my money saving blogs via Google Reader. I had to find a way to sort through the more than 200 posts a day to find the ones that I really need to know about. Yes 200 per day. Many times Google Reader is great because I can quickly sort through posts and eliminate those that are not in my area (i.e. Aldi) or those that don't pertain to me (i.e. dog posts). I can also email myself and others if I see something worth sharing.

Google Reader is a great way to keep up with when blogs post new information. When new posts are uploaded to the internet your reader will show you who has a new one and how many. You can also do things like tag your favorite posts and rate them for relevance. I am sure I have yet to learn all there is to know about Google Reader, but I would suggest it to anyone. I also love how easy it is to follow someone new. You can search for the blog right on the Google Reader site, and subscribe to the blog on the spot. No mess and only a few clicks. I would suggest you try following My Life As... on Google Reader. I will be your guinea pig. How about this...let's have our first contest. Sign up for a Google Reader account, and follow my blog. The 10th person to leave a comment on my blog telling me you joined and are following my blog will win a prize.

Here is how to enter.

After you sign up for Google Reader, return to My Life As... and subscribe to this blog by clicking the down arrow under "Subscribe To" and next to "Posts" on the top left column of the page. Then click "Add to Google".

You will have two options - add to Google Homepage or add to Google Reader.
Return to My Life As... and leave a comment on this post letting me know you are a subscriber. Your post must include your first name, city, and state.

The 10th person to comment about their subscription is a winner. Check back to see if you have claimed the grand prize.

Have a great weekend.

My Life Book Club - Book Annoucement

2010-03-19T12:00:00.001-05:00

It is time to announce the My Life Book Club (MLBC) inaugural book selection. To read more about the book club, see my post here.

After much consideration, I have selected "What Dosen't Kill You" a novel by Virginia DeBerry and Donna Grant.

About the Book

“I really thought I had a handle on life—then it broke off.”

Straight-talking and witty, Tee is a fly forty-something. Divorced since her daughter was young, Tee has been “handling her business,” and she’s done all right. Organized, responsible and loyal, Tee went from being the first employee of a start-up purveyor of organic lotions to the right-hand of the president of what became a major player in the home and personal fragrance market.

But then everything changes and for he first time in 25 years, Tee doesn’t know who she is or what she’s going to do. She spent her life investing her hopes and dreams in someone else’s. Now it’s her chance to invest in herself. Can she step out on faith and a dream?

About the Authors

With five novels to their credit, Virginia DeBerry and Donna Grant, best friends for 25 years, have turned a friendship into the most successful and enduring writing collaboration in African American fiction. Read their bios here.

Specifics

Begin Reading - March 29, 2010 (Gives you about a week to get the book. Library, Ebay, Amazon, book exchange, etc.)

Complete Reading - April 12, 2010 (As agreed - two weeks for reading.)

Follow this blog for discussion questions and prizes!

Happy Reading!

Thrifty Thursday

2010-03-19T08:40:00.000-05:00

I had a few computer problems last night. You still have time to experience these savings.

A constant here at My Life As… is the Thrifty Thursday Deals of the Week. Here are the rules I try to live by when compiling the deals:

I will list the best deal, in my opinion, for each store.
I will give you the item and the coupon you should clip and take to the store.
I will link back to the website I received the deal from so you can see more matchups.
I will try to stick to those items that are free or nearly free.

Happy Shopping!

Kroger Deal - Week of 3/17 - 3/23

Snickers 50¢
Use 50¢/2 Snickers Bars Coupon (Red Plum 02/21/10)
(Coupon doubles at my Kroger.)
Final Price = 2 Free

Thanks Stephanie. (Couponing 101 - See entire post here.)

*There is also a good promotion going on at Kroger.

March to Savings Event: Buy 8 participating items and Save $4 instantly! Mix & Match! Be sure to buy in groups of 8. I’ve only listed items with coupon match-ups, so there are other items included in this promotion. Check your ad/store for a complete list of participating products. Prices listed are after instant savings! See Stephanie's list of participating products here.

Randall's (Safeway/Tom Thumb) - Week of 3/17 - 3/23
This is not a great week at Randall's, but here is something that may interest you.

CLEANING PRODUCTS PROMO
Buy 3+ participating cleaning products, get them for $1.99 each

Febreze Air Effects – $1.99
Use $1/1 Febreze Air Effects coupon (Proctor & Gamble 3/7)
Final Price = $.99

Scotch Brite Sponges – $1.99
Use $1/2 Scotch-Brite coupon (SS 1/31)
Final Price = $2.98 for 2

Soft Scrub – $1.99
Use $.50/1 Soft Scrub coupon (RP 3/7)
Final Price = $.99

Thanks Shellie. (Saving with Shellie - See entire post here.)

Video of the Week

2010-03-17T07:00:00.001-05:00

It's Wednesday and I have the day off from work. Yippie! My daughter is going to cheer camp this morning. I think she is going to love it!

Here is a little something you may not know about me...I am a HUGE Carrie Underwood fan. I own all of her CDs. Here is one of my favorite songs.

Enjoy!

Suffering Produces Perseverance

2010-03-16T22:07:00.000-05:00

When I think of suffering I immediately equate it with tears, pain, hopelessness and despair, but I read a scripture today that tells a different story. Romans 5:3-4 exudes hope, and I was completely perplexed by the thought of hope in suffering. The scripture lays out a hierarchy that leads to hope, but it starts with suffering. Now how can that be? How can you go from something so negative and hurtful to something positive? "Rejoice in our suffering…suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope." Huh? Say that again…and say it very slowly. How can suffering be good?

After taking a minute to consider that surely God can't be wrong, I realized where He may be coming from. As I look back over my life, and I don't have to look back too far, I can recall times when I suffered. I was brought to tears over an experience and at that moment I could not see the light at the end of the tunnel. Suffering by definition is supposed to be hard. Synonyms for suffering are pain, anguish, distress, misery, agony, torment and affliction. I wondered how I could move on from this suffering, and certainly how I could achieve perseverance as a result of it. Now the concept of perseverance is tricky because at first glance it may appear to insinuate movement in one direction or towards something, but that would be the verb persevere meaning to continue and never give up. The word perseverance used here is a noun which speaks to ones insistence, urgency, determination and firmness. Now it was starting to make more sense. I believe it is possible that suffering can produce perseverance. Look at it this way. If a baby is told to stay away from the stove because it is hot, refuses, and touches the stove she will likely be burned and experience pain. Most babies when approached with the same situation in the future are determined not to feel that kind of pain again and will opt not to touch the stove. Suffering is a part of life, but what really matters is how we respond to the suffering. Consequently, how we respond, and with what level of determination, will put us in the perseverance category.

Knowing what I know now, I don't think I mind the suffering if I can experience the perseverance that can follow. My friend told me today that life is a marathon, and since I believe that is true, I know when I run I must be steady, and determined. I must be willing to work at life for the rest of my life. I have to work towards knowing who I am and what I stand for. I must be deliberate and aggressive in this race despite any difficulties or setbacks.

So it appears to be through our suffering that we grow, and it is certainly through our suffering that we develop who we are – our character. Therefore all that is left is HOPE. Now that is easy. Hope is God and it is only achieved through Him. Wow! So I guess you can go from pain, anguish and distress to hope. It is ironic that a definition to hope is somebody or something that seems likely to bring success or relief. Enough said.

Enjoy the rest of your day…and your sufferings.

Good Friends

2010-03-15T22:00:00.000-05:00

My Grandma always told me you only need a few good friends, and now I know exactly what she meant. I am truly blessed with a few friends that I have had for many years. I love the fact that my friends have seen me through good times and bad times. They have seen my ugly days and my most fabulous days. I am really drawn to television shows and movies that depict friendship that lasts through the ages because that is what I would love to experience.

I would like to highlight a friendship that I share with someone who is near and dear to me. She has always been there for me, even when I was crying outside of class as I prepared for my 12th grade English final exam that I was sure I would fail and they would not let me graduate. This friend is always there even though we live far away. I can call her every day or once a quarter, and when we get on the phone it feels like we pick up where we left off. No matter when I call her she answers, unless she is hiding being admitted into the hospital. We have a motto for our friendship - "If you like it, then I love it." This allows us the ability to voice our opinions, but in the end if the other person has a darn good reason for their actions, and it is not putting them in danger, then the other person is supportive until the very end. My friend knows me; almost as well as anyone can know another person. We were mistaken for each other in high school often, but ironically we did hang with the same people or aspire to do the same things. We went on to college and she pledged a sorority...I was not feeling it. She is great at being a sister! We seem to travel through life on parallel paths. If one calls with a problem or a need to vent, the other has just experienced the same thing, or has an experience that allows for an empathetic ear. I don't know what I would do without her. Our friendship has led me to a few conclusions about good friends:

Good friends transcend time and place.
Good friends don't judge you, but they do judge your actions.
Good friends are honest, but with so much love that you are not hurt by it.
Good friends never judge you by how many times you call or come see them.
Good friends always know when to speak and when to let you speak (or monopolize the entire conversation.)
Good friends are available day and night.
Good friends are understanding of your place in life.
Good friends allow you room to grow.
Good friends remind you of who you once were - for better or for worse.
Good friends can make you laugh so hard you cry.

I thank my friend for always knowing how to pick me up when I am down. I am glad she is around to remind me of who I once was and to journey with me towards who I will become. I love you.

I pray you have a good friend, and not too many, to walk with you through life. If you have not found that one, try being a friend to someone else. Friendship is often contagious and is always selfless.

Happy Birthday Mama

2010-03-14T09:12:00.000-05:00

Yesterday was my mom's birthday, and we surprised her with a visit to her job because she works on Saturdays. We had a great time, and I am truly blessed to have my mother with me. She is an amazing person and is loved by many. I don't know what I would do without her. She is my leaning post and my listening ear. I love you Mama. Happy Birthday. This cake is for you!

Please let me explain.

2010-03-14T09:08:00.000-05:00

Yesterday I had high hopes of completing my post after my daughter went to sleep...here lies the problem. I was once again caught up in the beautiful blue skies, and I ran around all day soaking up the sun again. (See Friday's post here.) When I finally got home it was time to cook, clean and spend family time. At that point I decided I would post after my daughter went to sleep, however she did not go to sleep easily. Let me explain. My daughter currently spends most of her nights on the floor of our room on three fluffy comforters instead of her beautiful full size bed in her room. She is in the imagination phase, and no matter how many monsters we slay or fish we remove from her bed, her room is not suitable for sleeping in her mind. We have tried lots and lots of things, but have not been successful. Last night we decided we would try to get her in the full size bed, even though she normally wakes in the middle of the night and ends up back on her comforter bed. We tried for about an hour and a half with no results, and by the time we all moved back to the comforter bed I was spent, emotionally and physically. So there you have it. There reason I did not write a post yesterday. Not the greatest excuse, but it is all I have...sorry...again. I plan to be back on track tomorrow.

I Apologize

2010-03-12T21:38:00.000-06:00

I apologize for not writing until now, but it was just so beautiful outside. I couldn't pull myself away from the amazing weather we are having in Houston to type today. I am sorry. Every time I looked at my computer or laptop I was distracted by the clear blue skies. When I left for work this morning the sun was shining so bright that I needed my sun glasses. I love daylight savings time. I love coming home while the sun is still out. I know I will have to give up an hour of sleep, but it is so worth it. So I hope you can accept my apology for soaking up some sun instead of typing. I will try to do better tomorrow. I will try.

Now I must go and read to my baby before bed. This is the best part of my day.

An update for those who read my Monday post (here)...my back is feeling better each day. The healing process is a slow process, but I have promised myself to take it easy as not to reaggravate my injury.

Have a great evening.

Thrifty Thursday

2010-03-11T04:00:00.000-06:00

A constant here at My Life As… is the Thrifty Thursday Deals of the Week. Here are the rules I try to live by when compiling the deals:

I will list the best deal, in my opinion, for each store.
I will give you the item and the coupon you should clip and take to the store.
I will link back to the website I received the deal from so you can see more matchups.
I will try to stick to those items that are free or nearly free.

Happy Shopping!

Target (Week of 3/7 to 3/13)

Johnson's Buddies Soap Bars 97¢
- $1/1 Johnson's Coupon (3/7 Red Plum)
= Free

See the entire post here. Thank you Stephanie.

I love this soap. I have done this deal many times!

Kroger (Week of 3/10 to 3/16)

Gatorade $1
- 50¢/1 Gatorade G2 Coupon (1/10 Red Plum) - Coupon doubles at my Kroger.
= Free

See the entire post here. Thank you Stephanie.

Randalls (Week of 3/10 to 3/16)

Quaker Oatmeal Squares – $1-Use $1/1 Quaker coupon (2/14 Red Plum)= Free

See the entire post here. Thank you Shellie.
Read more about double and triple coupons here.

Video of the Week

2010-03-10T04:00:00.001-06:00

Here it is...the video of the week. Many of you have probably seen this clip, but I still think it is hilarious.

Enjoy, and have a great Wednesday.

Learning More about Me

2010-03-09T22:03:00.000-06:00

Since many of you know from my previous posts that I am imperfect, I do not feel the need to hide behind my inadequacies. So along that train of thought I would like to share with you a short list of things I really want to try or learn, but don't have the courage yet.

Artichokes. I want to cook them. Every time I am in Target I look at them and wonder if I could really cook an artichoke. They are so cute and inexpensive at certain times in the year, like now! I want to broaden my food horizons.
Driving a car manually. I think it is very cool and certainly cost effective, to drive a car manually. I have always been fascinated by the concept, but have never learned how to actually do it. Now I do admit that I would rather not drive one during rush hour traffic, but I would love to have the ability to drive one just in case. You never know when you will be faced with a situation that requires that special skill.
Scuba Diving. I am truly terrified yet intrigued by the idea of scuba diving. I would love to go deep in the water and discover what is really down there, but the idea of being surrounded by all of that water really concerns me. I have snorkeled before, but this is truly on another level all together.
Cooking on an outdoor grill. Now I know this must seem strange, especially if you know that I have a propane grill right in my backyard, but the truth of the matter is I have never even started the thing. My husband is in charge of the grill, but I so want to learn. My biggest fear is overcooking the chicken. I just know I will ruin the chicken. However, I think this summer I just may get up the nerve to try. (Of course I will Google the best methods first.)
Going on a trip in an RV. This is something I have never done, but the appeal of living in the vehicle you are driving is very interesting. These days the RVs are so luxurious and may provide better living quarters than some hotels. My husband is really interested in this as well. You never know what this summer may bring.
Learn to play chess. As a self-proclaimed "thinker" I would love to learn the thinking man's game. I have convinced my boss to teach me all he knows. The next step is to get started. I am happy to say I know a lot about the pieces and how they are allowed to move, but the rest is Greek. I am hoping to add chess to my repertoire this year.
Make my Grandma's chili. I am sad to say that I have not been successful in finding the recipe to my Grandma's world famous chili. This was my favorite meal as a child, and I regret not asking for the family secret the last time she was in Houston. (However, I did get the red potatoes recipe.) I looked all over the house when we were home for Christmas, but no luck. If any family member knows the secret recipe, please pass it on.
Have a signature macaroni and cheese. I really want to be that family member that they always ask to bring macaroni and cheese. It is my favorite holiday dish....right family. I just want to make one that is a-la-Laura. I have the pasta part and my secret ingredient worked out, but I am still struggling to make the cheese sauce memorable. I will keep working at it and let you know when you should request a sample.
Go to Disney World. I know that sounds very cliché, but it is true. I want to go, and now I want to take my daughter. She is a little small now, but I am hopeful that soon we share that experience together.
Doing my own taxes. I just don't have the energy to learn another thing right now, and taxes appear to be very complicated. Taxes seem like something I should be able to do, but I am intimidated by the whole process. Maybe there are just too many words on a form and way too many forms for my taste. Maybe it's the fact that if you are wrong they will hunt you down until they get their money. Seems so ominous. I know if I really put my mind to it I could be successful, but again my brain is currently full. Therefore, this year I will be getting a package together to send over to our CPA. Maybe I will be ready in a few years.

Can you help me with any of the items on my list? What do you want to do, but just haven't tried yet?

It's Monday - Enough Said!

2010-03-08T18:30:00.000-06:00

Happy Monday All!

I am trying to smile through the pain of Monday. I am all stuffy with allergy problems. My upper back hurts probably due to a strained muscle. I am a little miserable today. I have yet another motto that has helped me through this day - "Fake it 'til you make it!"

When I was a dancer that was a slogan we lived by. When in rehersal, and you don't really know all of the steps, you have to pretend you do until the steps become second nature. So today was a fake it 'til you make it day for me. I have been pushing through the pain of the day all the while fooling those around me. You should try it sometimes...it is very liberating if you can pull it off. However, now I have an appointment with an Icy Hot patch and hopefully a good nights sleep. (pending cooperation from you know who!)

How do you fake it 'til you make it? Enjoy the rest of your day.

Someone Should’ve Told Me…

2010-03-07T16:48:00.000-06:00

Every day as I look at my daughter growing up before my very eyes, I fight hard not to lose the memories of how it was back then. Three years ago my baby was born, and my life changed forever. I struggle with memories of her being so small. I want to remember those times, good and bad, because before I know it she will be a teenager. I try my best to capture our lives through this blog, my daughter's Shutterfly page, my new Project Life book and pictures. (My family will tell you that I love to send pictures.) Being a mother has been a blessing, and I want to be able to tell her all about how she was when she was a little girl.

In my quest to remember, I have come across a not so good time in my life during her first two months on this Earth. I remember feeling lost and trapped in my own home. I had a hard time for a few reasons, 1) I am not a night person, but breastfeeding a new baby doesn't allow you the freedom to "select your own schedule"…she's hungry…she eats, and 2) I have a type A personality that prohibits me from "going with the flow". During this time no sleep and going with the flow are normal…see why I was having a hard time. So in this segment of Someone Should've Told Me here at My Life As I would like to discuss the Baby Blues.

I don't believe I was severely depressed, but I was certainly overwhelmed. I was determined to breast feed my daughter, especially since my milk is FREE. (I can't help being frugal.) I was also determined to sleep, eat, bathe, and clean up every once in a while. I was determined to keep track of her every move and every drop of milk she drank. I was determined and that determination nearly drove me crazy.

Now up until the point of labor, I was in control. I had washed all of her soon-to-be clothes (per the baby book). I had sterilized all of her bottles, and prepared her bed (which she didn't sleep in until well past 6 months). I made her diaper bag, and organized my hospital bag. I had read all of the right books, taken all of the classes offered by the hospital, and had a beautifully written Birth Plan that I fully intended to follow. I found the perfect pediatrician, and ear-marked a few dentists. (Yes I knew she wouldn't be born with teeth!) I was ready. Then came LABOR. I was good with the labor until my water broke. Then the contractions seemed to be very, very bad as compared to the beginning of labor. I got to the hospital and was hooked up to the machine for monitoring, but that was around 1 o'clock in the morning. (Keep in mind I had been at work all day…been up since 6 am…my patience and pain tolerance was wearing thin.) A special note is required here because I failed to mention earlier that my beautifully written Birth Plan specifically stated that I wanted nothing to do with an epidural. NO MEDS FOR ME! Ole natural is what I wanted! So at 3 o'clock in the morning, with tears of disappointment in my eyes, I reluctantly requested an epidural…AND IT WAS THE BEST DECISION I MADE THAT DAY! I was so exhausted, and I couldn't remember any breathing techniques. The ones I did remember weren't working. The pain was driving me crazy, and that was the first time in the entire nine months that I felt out of control. I had no control over this God-made baby girl. I had no control over His timing, but I tell you what, I thank Him for timing because after that epidural I slept for the next five hours straight. The next thing I remember is the doctor coming and saying I should push now. That was the best, and the last good sleep I have had in three years!

For the next two months I was blessed to have my mother practically live with us to help me through the very difficult transition into my NEW life. What I didn't expect was to feel so down all of the time. I was very emotional and unsure of everything. The only thing I knew I could do for sure was hug and love that little girl.

So after my two months was over the day came for my mother to leave, and the night before I remember being in a closet, sitting on the floor next to my mom, on the phone with my Grandma, and crying hysterically saying, "I can't do this. My mom can't leave me." Someone should've told me that I would have to learn that it is OK to cry…a lot…often…and that doesn't make you weak, but it makes you NORMAL.

A small amount of the Baby Blues is expected after having a baby, and I surely had my fair share. I would always caution those who are caring for the new mom to consider depression. Talk to your doctor about the signs of depression, but also be aware that Baby Blues are normal and what the mom really needs is support.

During those first few months I did cry often, and it was my way of letting go. I felt stronger when I got it all out. My grandma would always tell me it was ok to cry. Thanks Grandma.

Leave a comment. Did you experience the Baby Blues?

Saturday Savings – Where To Shop: Part 2

2010-03-06T04:00:00.005-06:00

As we continue to learn more about where to shop to maximize your savings, let's move on to grocery stores. In my book there are three types of grocery stores: 1) Those that don't accept coupons, 2) Those that accept manufacturer's coupons at face value, and 3) Those that double and triple manufacturer's coupons. When I was growing up, Kroger was our family store. I always remember going to the store with my mom, or walking to the store under protest, and seeing a banner hanging outside of the store advertising double and triple coupons. At the time I did not know what that banner meant because I did not grow up in a "diehard" couponing house. We would use coupons sometimes, but it wasn't a way of life like it is for me now. So just in case you are in the same boat, and couponing, and the lingo associated with it, are foreign to you, I will cover the basics here.

Fact #1 – To maximize the value of your coupon, you should shop at a grocery store that doubles and triples your coupon. Doubling and tripling takes the value that the manufacture is going to reimburse the store and adds extra savings from the store itself. The store is giving you money, and sometimes free products because of the extra value of your coupon.

Fact #2 – The way a coupon doubles or triples is pretty standard with the two stores in my area – Randall's (Safeway) and Kroger. The store will double your coupon up to $0.50 and will triple your coupon up to $0.35. Let me break this down a little further for you.

All coupons with a face value of $0.01 (I have never seen one.) up to $0.39 will triple in value. So a $0.35 coupon is now worth $1.05 off of the product.
All coupons with a face value of $0.40 up to $0.50 will double in value. So a $0.40 coupon is now worth $0.80 off the product.
All coupons with a face value of $0.51 up to $1.00 or more are accepted at face value.

Fact #3 – It appears that all stores do not accept coupons equally. What I mean by that is at Kroger I can use multiple coupons with a value that is supposed to be doubled (like at $0.50 coupon), and their registers double each coupon no matter how many I have. As long as I have one coupon for every product each coupon will multiply. However, at Randall's (as I learned recently in my couponing) I can only have one like coupon doubled per transaction. I can not prove with certainty the Kroger rule, but now that I am thinking about it I will check it out the next time I go. Here is an example for clarification of how it works at Randall's:

Assume I was buying canned green beans priced at $1.50 cents per can, and I have a coupon for $0.50 cents off 1 can. If I were buying one can at Randall's, I would pay $0.50 for this can because my $0.50 coupon would double giving me a value of $1.00 as a form of payment. However, if I were buying 4 cans of green beans at $1.50 each ($6.00 total) and I have 4 coupons for $0.50 off one can you would assume that my total price would be $2.00 for all four cans. This is not true at Randall's. At Randall's the register only doubles the first of my 4 coupons, and accepts my other 3 coupons at face value. If you know this you have one of the following options:

Ask the cashier if you can make four separate purchases.

Make four separate purchases on different days or stores (remember you have an entire week in most cases to catch the sale)
Resolve to only purchasing one can and saving your other coupons for a future sale. (hopefully before they expire)
Bring your husband and make him purchase a can in the other line! (You know I will use that one!)
Accept that you will only receive a double coupon benefit on the first can, and you will have to pay $1.00 for the others. You will get a savings, just not as much of one as you could receive.

NOTE: The only coupons you have to worry about with Randall's are those that fall into the double or triple coupon benefit range. If the green bean coupon offers $0.55 off of one can, you can use as many as you want because it would not have doubled or tripled anyway.

Fact #3 – Doubling or tripling can save you money, but make sure the item is on sale or you "must" purchase the item. Don't let the coupon burn a hole in your pocket. Nine times out of ten a sale will come around before the coupon expires.

Facts #4 – Always take your time. If you get in the store and things don't seem right then don't buy. Go home and regroup then try again later.

Let's stop there for today. I encourage you to try your hand at coupon shopping at the grocery store. There are many opportunities for free items. Build your stockpile!

Let me know how your couponing is going. Next week we will address digital coupons.

Enjoy your weekend.

Top 5 - Rodeo Edition

2010-03-05T04:00:00.000-06:00

I am very excited about our trip to the Houston Livestock Show and Rodeo tomorrow, and I am even more excited about introducing my daughter to the festivities. This will be her first rodeo, and the carnival is sure to be her favorite thing. I wonder how she will feel about the calf scramble? In honor of our Saturday outing to the Rodeo, I have highlighted the top five things I love and the top 5 things I can't stand about the Rodeo.

Top 5 things I LOVE about the Rodeo

Parade (The bands, horses, cowboys and cowgirls of course! My daughter loved the cheerleaders. I loved the women riding side saddle. So traditional and beautiful.)
Concerts (especially Brad Paisley…enough said. Can you tell he is my favorite?)
Carnival (My daughter is really into Ferris Wheels – go figure.)
Texan Pride (There is something about being involved with something that is uniquely Texas. I am proud to be a Texan.)
Calf Scramble (A very interesting event – calves and scholarship money – all you have to do is catch one.)

Honorable Mention

Rodeo Attire – Boots, jeans and cowboy hats. The one time of year you dust them off, and show them off. (The good news is people won't look at you funny because they are wearing them too.)

Top 5 things I CAN"T STAND about the Rodeo

Rain (My mother firmly believes that rain accompanies every Rodeo. She has been right before. Let's see about this year.)
Animal Poop (I am sure I don't need to explain my position on this. My daughter has named the street sweepers from the parade – The Dusters. We had to cover our faces every time they came by. Yuck.)
Parking (If you are not blessed to have free parking, you must pay A LOT to park. It is not very close. I hope your boots are made for walking.)
Late Nights (If you go for a concert, the person you paid to see will not be on stage until at least 9 pm. Then you get out of there around 11 pm. Get home about 12 am. Then turn around and go to work for 7 am. Yikes. I am not a night person, but I can make an exception for Brad Paisley.)
Can't See It All (I am always torn by what concert to see, and balancing that with when I can get a baby sitter. I want to see and do it all, but I can't. Thankfully, there will always be next year.)

Honorable Mention

Long Walks – Exercise is good, but depending on where you park you are in for a very long walk. You walk from your car to the stadium gate. You then walk from the stadium gate to the actual stadium. Finally you walk in the stadium to your seat. You will clock a few miles with this adventure.

Who is your favorite Rodeo performer? Are you going to the Rodeo this year? Check out the website (here) for more information.

Have a mighty fine day!

Thrifty Thursday

2010-03-04T04:00:00.001-06:00

A constant here at My Life As… is the Thrifty Thursday Deals of the Week. Here are the rules I try to live by when compiling the deals:

I will list the best deal, in my opinion, for each store.
I will give you the item and the coupon you should clip, or print, and take to the store.
I will link back to the website I received the deal from so you can see more matchups.
I will try to stick to those items that are free or nearly free.

This week my deals have to do with price matching. (Learn more about it by clicking here.) I will highlight two stores this week – Target and Walmart.

Happy Shopping!

NOTE: You will need your Big Lots sale paper along with coupons to complete these deals. If you don't have a Big Lots near you, or you don't get the Big Lots ad in your Sunday newspaper, I invite you to visit the websites to find additional items you can shop for this week at other stores.

Walmart and/or Target (Week of 2/28 to 3/6)
You can do these deals at either store because they both will price match. I am doing my deals at Target this time. The coupons are available by clicking the link under the item and printing them from a website.

V8 V-Fusion Juice, 46 oz - $1.50 in ad
Use $1/1 Printable (campellskitchen.com)
Final Price =$.50
Thanks Krazy Coupon Lady (Read entire post here.)

All Laundry Detergent 50 oz - $2.50 in ad
Use $2/1 (Red Plum 2/7)
Final Price=$.50

Thanks Totally Target and Krazy Coupon Lady (Read their entire posts here and here.)

I did the V8 V Fusion deal yesterday at Target and I came home with 7 bottles of juice for $3.50! (The juice costs $2.99 at Target regular price.) Yippie! I did the All deal when it came out about two months ago so I am out of coupons and have too much laundry detergent...says my husband.)

Leave a comment. Did you try to price match this week? How did you do with printing coupons? I wish you great success.

Video Wednesday

2010-03-03T08:03:00.001-06:00

The middle of the week is here, and I can't wait for Saturday. We are going to the Houston Livestock Show and Rodeo as well as the Rodeo Carnival. Yippie! I love Rodeo time in Houston.

Today's video is a great pick me up, which we all might need. I found hope when I watched it during my trying week. (See post here.)

Some of you have seen this video because once it touched me via email I forwarded it on to all the women I know. As I looked at it again I realized that many men could benefit too. This clip is wonderful and emotional. I know I am a child of the only living God after watching this message.

Enjoy!

Just Keep Swimming

2010-03-01T22:43:00.000-06:00

Last week was a trying week for me. My daughter was at the tail end of a cold, work was busy with so many different projects, the house needed a lot of cleaning (I am not sure why the house was extra dirty), and the laundry kept piling up no matter how many loads I washed. No matter what I did to try to get ahead of the game, I constantly fell behind. I wouldn't normally share these ramblings with people, but I figured maybe you had a week like this too in the recent past. Maybe we can help each other.

The hours in the day can sometimes seem short, and the hours you have to sleep even shorter. The projects, tasks, responsibilities, and/or chores appear insurmountable. Your hope for ever making it out of such a rut is diminishing. What do you do? What do you do when you can barely keep your head above water? What do you do when no matter how hard you try it's just not good enough? I have a saying in my life that comes from a very popular children's movie "Finding Nemo" – JUST KEEP SWIMMING. This motto came back to me while listening to the sermon at church this Sunday where the Pastor spoke on the same concept - running the race of life. Hebrews 12:1-3 (Looking back I suppose I needed to hear that message.)

"Just keep swimming" is a reminder to me that the only option is to keep moving forward. Keep your arms moving and your eyes fixed on the prize.

When I was learning to play tennis (I retired at the tender age of 16), my coach used to make us run a two-mile path two times a day. Needless to say I did not like that path because I wondered what long distance running had to do with anything - this is a tennis camp. What's running got to do with it? (I was young…naive.) When we used to run our coach told us we were not allowed to stop running…no matter what. Walking was not an option. No matter how slow we ran, we were required to make it look like running. I gained a principle from that experience in my life, and I wish to share them with you in hopes of helping you when times get tough.

You must keep swimming, running or whatever you are supposed to be doing. Now the operative word here is "supposed" because if you are doing something outside of the will of God for your life, there is no amount of running you can do that will help you cross that finish line. You will be like a dog chasing its tail…no results in sight. However, if you are running or swimming in your lane headed towards the finish line, you will be rewarded for your efforts.

When we ran for tennis it was very tiring and we hated every minute of it, but when we ran without ceasing over a period of weeks, we gained strength and confidence. We were in better shape because we ran, and we were eventually in better shape than anyone else we played in tournaments. We could outlast the opponent, and hardly break a sweat.

I guess my point is you have to keep going. Jesus didn't decide things were too hard when he was dying on a cross for us because the finish line, what he was fighting for, was greater than any pain He suffered.

When things look miserable, and hope is fading, just keep swimming. Eventually if you are on the right track, and with a little prayer and perseverance, the finish line will come. Remember if you stop on the track during the race, it will take longer to get to your final destination.

Leave a comment. Let me know how you handle the tough times? What scripture do you lean on when you need a helping hand?

Looking Foward to My First Garden

2010-02-28T21:46:00.000-06:00

I have been inspired by the lovely weather here in Houston to revisit my hopes and dreams of starting my very own vegetable garden. (This is another great money saving opportunity.) This will be my first one, and to be honest, I am nervous. What if I don't plant the right types of vegetables? What if some stray animals eat them up? What if they die? Oh my. However, if I lived my life based on "What If" scenarios I guess I wouldn't get very far. So I am going to do it. I went to the library today and checked out some gardening books, and my friend from my daughter's school has agreed to share some of her wisdom. (She has a garden in her backyard.) Please pray for me. I will keep you up to date on my progress. (I am hoping I inherited some of the good gardening genes from my grandmother, father and aunts. We shall see.)

Do you have a garden? Why types of vegetables? How was your first year? Any books you suggest I read?

Saturday Savings

2010-02-27T15:42:00.000-06:00

It's time to go shopping. You have you coupons in hand, and you are ready to use them. The next step is to determine WHERE you should use them to maximize your savings. In Houston we have several stores to choose from when it comes to grocery shopping, but this is not the case in other cities. Here we can select from Randall's (Safeway), Kroger, HEB, Wal-Mart, Target, Whole Foods, Sams Club, Rice Epicurean, Fiesta, Big Lots, Food Town and Costco just to name a few. The hard part about having so many choices is understanding the coupon policy of each store. Today I will try to simplify how I determine which store to grocery shop when using coupons. This will be a two part post.

Before we get into the store by store discussion, there is a shopping method we have not covered that will be discussed in this post – price matching. Price Matching is the process of using one store's sales ad at another store to receive the competitor's price. For example, if your HEB sales paper shows Wolf Chili on sale for $1.00, at some stores you are allowed to take that HEB paper to the cashier or customer service desk to receive wolf Chili at their store for HEB's price. There are some guidelines that are generic across all price matching policies:

The item must be advertised in the printed ad, and not by word of mouth or an internet print out.
The ad must be presented in its entirety, and not just the page the item you want to purchase is on.
The item must be on sale during the week you are attempting to purchase it and not from an old ad for the previous week.

Other than that, each price matching policy is different.

NOTE: Most grocery stores do not price match (i.e. – Kroger and Randall's), and this is mostly because of their coupon policy which I will discuss further in next week's post.

The reasons you would even want to price match vary by person, but the most popular response is location and coupon usage. Some areas only have access to Wal-Mart or Target stores, or their access to these stores is much easier than the grocery store. The best advantage is coupon usage or participation in a promotion (i.e. – gift cards) at a particular store.

The most popular price matching locations are Wal-Mart and Target, and these are the two I will focus on for this discussion. You can read much more about each price matching policy by visiting the store's website.
Wal-Mart is a very easy place to price match because their cashiers have the power to change your price at the register. You just present your item and then your ad, and presto your price change is reflected on your bill. I use the Wal-Mart price match for convenience mostly. The location of Wal-Mart is on my way to pick my daughter up from school, and I am a much faster shopper when I shop alone. I also use Wal-Mart price match when I see an item I have a coupon for on sale at a store that doesn't accept coupons (i.e. Big Lots). My best Wal-Mart price match came when Big Lots had All laundry detergent on sale for $2.50. I had a $1.50 coupon for all (actually I had 8 $1.50 coupons for All) and Big Lots does not accept coupons. I price matched at Wal-Mart, and received the All for $1.00 each, which is well below my stock up price. It was a great day at Wal-Mart! (If you know me, I don't say I like Wal-Mart often. If you ask my daughter, we are Target girls!)

Target is also an easy place to price match, but it requires one extra step. When at Target you must purchase your items at the register and then take you receipt and items to customer service to price check. You can also try checking out at customer service on a slow day. (Anyone remember my cereal deal at Target? That was a price match too.)

FYI – Good price match opportunity is coming up for All laundry detergent if you get the Big Lots paper on Sunday. Check your coupons for All. Get a sneak peak at the ad on the Big Lots website. (Enter your zip code when prompted.)

As for other coupons, the best place for using those with a value of .50 or less is Kroger or Randall's. This is because these stores double and triple coupons. To learn more about where to use your coupons, check out part 2 of this post next week. Happy Shopping.

Private Practice Pickle

2010-02-25T22:07:00.000-06:00

A new segment on My Life As is the Private Practice Pickle (or the Pickle of the Week).

I have always been a fan of the ABC hit drama Private Practice, a spinoff from Grey's Anatomy. The show highlights the lives of doctors in a private practice and the cases they receive. I have noticed that each episode comes with a life altering decision that must be made in about 1 hour. Every week I watch the show and follow up with a discussion with my co-workers to ask the question "What would you do?" This water cooler type of discussion is becoming something we look forward to in our week.

Starting this week, I want to know "What would you do" in response to the Private Practice Pickle dilemma of the week. To be sensitive to those, including myself, who do not have the time to watch the show the day it airs, Thursday night at 9 pm Central, I will not pose the Private Practice Pickle until the week after the air date. For example, the Pickle of the Week will cover the episode that aired last Thursday, February 18, 2010. I will try my best not to spoil the outcome, but if you are not caught up and the episode is stuck in your DVR then please refrain from reading the post. I will also try to give enough information for you to participate if you are not a fan of the show, but beware, you may become one. Also, if you are interested in watching the show, you can do it for free online by clicking here.

Pickle of the Week (Episode: "Til Death Do Us Part" - Show Aired Feb. 18, 2010)

You and your spouse have been trying to get pregnant for a very long time, and you finally find success through a fertilization process. You are now 25 weeks pregnant, and you go into labor well before the 36 week threshold for a baby to survive outside of the womb. Due to complications your baby must be born, but is born with many medical difficulties to overcome. The baby cannot see and will probably be blind. The baby's digestive tract is compromised. The baby is suffering. The doctors see a future of multiple surgeries for the baby, and do not hold out much hope that the child will have a good quality of life if it does survive. Your baby has been in the NICU and you have not been able to hold the baby since birth. After a failed surgery to correct one of the baby's medical issues, the doctor's offer you the opportunity to hold your child, but inform you that it will probably be the only and last time you will hold the baby because it may not survive without assistance from machines.

My question to you is – What would you do? Would you take the opportunity to hold your child knowing it might be the last time?

I understand that being transparent and offering your opinion on "touchy" subjects is often very frightening. You may wonder what people will think of you based on your reply, especially if it is not the "popular" reply. I am using My Life As to open minds and hearts, and I want you to feel comfortable sharing your opinion.

Therefore, I offer you the following options to share on the Pickle of the Week post:

*You can leave a comment at the bottom of this post stating how you would respond to the dilemma in three ways:

With your name
Without your name
With your name, but ask me not to publish on the website

NOTE: I have to accept all comments before they show up on the blog, and will honor your request not to display your comment if you desire.

Please respond with respect and in love.

As for me, I believe I would take the opportunity to hold my baby. (However, it would take me longer than an hour to make that decision.) I think about my daughter, and as much as I would love to do all I could do to keep her alive, I know her suffering would hurt me more. I would hold her to let her know I am here for her. I would then pray for a miracle. Perhaps God would spare her life and she would breathe on her own in my arms. Maybe He has a greater plan for her. I don't believe in playing God. I once heard a saying that I think would apply here…Let God do His job, and you worry about doing your job. I think our job is putting our trust in Him. I would try to find the strength to listen for His answer.

Thrifty Thursday

2010-02-25T11:24:00.003-06:00

For those who have reclaimed their love for couponing, or for those just starting since reading my blog, I am going to offer my suggestions for the best deals of the week here at My Life As. I will comb the blogs and compile a list of the best deal for each store. This week, being sensitive to those just starting and attempting not to overwhelm, I will highlight two stores – Kroger and Safeway (Randalls or Tom Thumb). I will give you the item and the coupon you should clip and take to the store thanks to Shellie at Saving with Shellie and Stephanie at Couponing 101. If you wish to read further and get additional matchups, please feel free to click on the link before the matchup and journey over to the websites for more information. I will try to stick to those items that are free or nearly free. Look forward to my post on Saturday for our discussion on where you should use your coupons to maximize your savings. Happy Shopping!

My Kroger Pick (Week of 2/24 to 3/2)
Stephanie's List (here)

Blistex $1
- 35¢/1 Bistex Coupon (1/17 SS - Smat Source)
- Coupon triples at my Kroger
= Free

My Safeway Pick (Randalls/Tom Thumb) (Week of 2/24 to 3/2)
Stephanie's List (here)

Select Jimmy Dean Products $1.99 – Saturday & Sunday ONLY
- $1/1 Jimmy Dean Coupon (1/31 RP - Red Plum)
= 99¢

Leave a comment. How did you do with your coupons this week? Did you try the deals of the week? What other stores would you like to see included in the Deal of the Week post?

If you need a laugh...

2010-02-24T15:05:00.002-06:00

If you need a laugh take a look at this. I know I need one.

It is amazing what makes children giggle.

Happy Wednesday!

I Can Bleach and I Can Mop

2010-02-23T17:41:00.000-06:00

As an update to my previous post about my cleaning abilities (read more here), I am pleased to inform you that I did it - I mopped my kitchen floor without the Swiffer! I also took it one step forward...I bleached clothes. This is something I neglected to tell you in the earlier post, but bleaching was a foreign activity and was a non-existent part of my laundry routine. This week I was adventurous and I decided I could do it – bleach and mop.

I first attacked bleaching. Now I am sure many of you think this absolutely ludicrous that I have not bleached clothes in my entire life, but it is true. Growing up we did not bleach clothes, and I thought washing them was all that was required. I remember reading tags on clothing with bleach recommendations, but I am sure I didn't think the recommendation pertained to me. What does bleach do anyway? I know about its cleaning and disinfecting powers because I use it to clean my daughter's toys, but what does it do to clothes? At my husband's suggestion, I decided to try bleaching to make our whites whiter. (That's what the commercials say.) My husband talked me through the process, and I tried my first load. However, before I could do this, I had to further sort my already sorted clothes. Whew. Determining who should get bleach and who shouldn't isn't a cakewalk either. I made a few incorrect suggestions, which my husband helped me correct, and NOW I was ready to go. I took my load to the washer and let the water run in, then I followed the directions on the bottle of bleach. When I took the clothes out of the washing machine, I must admit, they were indeed whiter! Who would've known? I was very proud of myself, and so was my husband who I believe was secretly hoping I would master this bleaching task.

On to round two - the dreaded mopping chore.

Keep in mind I do mop my floors, but not with a traditional mop and mop bucket. I believe the Swiffer is the greatest invention since the wheel. Where would I be without my Swiffer? I guess the answer is – a really dirty house! I started by evaluating my task, and realized that my biggest concern with mopping is the dirt on the floor that will get all tangled up in my mop. So I heard somewhere that you should sweep well before you mop. Therefore part 1 of this task is sweeping the floor. Then I realized that I want to mop the entire floor, therefore I would have to move a few things. I am a bit embarrassed to share that there were many locations in my kitchen that it was obvious had not been mopped since my former housekeeper's last visit. Oh boy! So part 2 of the task is clearing the floor. Then I wondered, what do you put in the water to clean the floor? I have Swiffer solution, but I am sure with all of the cleaning products I own, something could be used for mopping. Ah ha! I realized that I have cleaning products that were given to us when we purchased our water treatment system, and one is a disinfecting cleaning solution that is good for mopping (says the label). Yippie. So now I have one last hurdle to overcome – I realize there are scuff marks on the floor from our shoes and I am not sure that the mop will get them up. Ok, improvising I decide to try the Mr. Clean Magic Eraser on the scuffs before I mop, and it works. Now I am ready. I have cleared and swept the floor, chosen my solution and filled my mop bucket, and removed the scuffs from the floor. I begin to mop. I even mop the foyer and bathroom while I am at it. When I am done, I sit back and admire my work. I think I have done a good job. My husband later passes by the kitchen floor and comments positively on the floor. I have completed the task of mopping!

I have to say it was a lot of work in my book, but maybe after doing it often I can get faster at it. Truth be told, I will probably still Swiffer sometimes, but I will add "real" mopping to my cleaning routine.

Leave a comment. Do you have any mopping tips for me? Do you have a favorite mopping solution?

UPDATE: My daughter and I stayed home from work and school today, and I think the bug is finally gone. Thank you for all of your prayers and kind words.

Happy Birthday Grandmother

2010-02-22T15:54:00.000-06:00

A quick note for today. It is not like me to do multiple posts in a day, but I thought this one deserved special consideration. Today would have been my Grandmother Marie's (my father's mother) birthday.

Happy Birthday Grandmother. We miss you.

Sick Child = No Post

2010-02-22T08:44:00.000-06:00

I am sorry for not posting anything yesterday. My daughter has a cold (we hope...it looks like a cold...I need it to be a cold), and the fever has been trouble since Friday night. Special thanks to my sister-in-law for providing advice and guidance as always. My little one is spending the day at her grandma's house, and I am attempting to work with little sleep and worry on my mind. Please pray for us.

Discussion for today - White Shoes...why do we buy them for children, and how long do we actually expect them to stay white? This is a picture of my daughter's new white tennis shoes. They looked so pretty in the store on the shelf. I will update the post when they are not so white. Let's see how long they last.

Leave a comment. How do you keep tennis shoes white? Talk to you soon.

Saturday Savings– Organizing Your Coupons

2010-02-20T16:04:00.002-06:00

So now you have all of these coupons…what do you with them. Shellie, over at Saving with Shellie (http://www.savingwithshellie.com/), has developed a method I have learned to love. However, I did not always organize this way. I was once a coupon clipper. Here is a little history.

When I met my husband he was a self-proclaimed couponaholic, and honestly, I didn't understand what the fuss was all about. However, after many trips to the grocery store with him, and seeing all of the money we saved, I was willing to give it a try. I started by clipping every coupon I thought I would possibly use out of every Sunday paper. This was great when it came to going to the store because I could just take my binder or accordion file with me, and I was never faced with leaving a coupon that I might need at home. My husband and I would have a coupon shopping day, and spend about two hours in the grocery store looking for all of the best deals. This worked out well until our lives became busy, and we didn't have the time to shop for two hours and we certainly didn't have the time to clip every coupon out of the Sunday paper. The booklets of coupons kept adding up, and they were being clipped at an increasingly slower pace. Then the printable coupon reared its ugly head.

One day I looked at my accordion file full of expired coupons, my stack of unclipped coupon booklets, and the pile of unclipped printed coupons I had accumulated, and I soon lost all hope in my couponing future. I asked myself how it got so bad, and how could I ever dig myself out of this hole to find the savings I knew existed in my pile of papers? Enter Shellie. My feeling of hopelessness was cured when I read my first blog, and Shellie was the author. She spoke of her coupon organization method, and it was so easy. Read about it here.

So I began by doing just what Shellie advised. I took each coupon booklet, which is labeled on the spine with the date, (this was new to me) and placed it into a file box in a hanging file labeled with the publication title (Red Plum, General Mills, Proctor and Gamble, and Smart Source). I put them in date order, and printed the listing of what is in each booklet from Sunday Coupon Preview (http://www.sundaycouponpreview.com/). I highlight the coupon with the latest expiration date and place it before the booklet(s) in the file. This helps we know when I can recycle the entire booklet because all of the coupons are expired. I then leave them all resting in the box (no cutting necessary), and read my blogs. I follow many blogs (see them to the left of the screen) and they all refer to the coupons in the same way. They tell you the location of the coupon by booklet and date (i.e. – RP 1/10/10 meaning Red Plum booklet released in the January 10, 2010 Sunday paper), and where to buy the item at a cheap price. I then locate the booklet, and clip the coupon(s) I need. I make a list per store of the items I will purchase, and head to the store.

Now I know you are wondering what happens if I get to the store and notice something I think I have a coupon for that will make it a great deal, but I don't have the coupon with me? I follow Shellie's advice on this as well by carrying a small tablet with me and making a note of that item and price. When I get home I check my coupons and return to the store the next day to get the item. The other problem is if the sale is set to end the same day or if it is a clearance item. For a sale ending the same day, you should return home and get your coupon then return to the store. (or send your husband back to the store) If it is a clearance item, you have to ask yourself how good the deal is. If it is a must have, you should return home to get your coupon and go back to the store. If it is a must have and the quantity is limited, you may have to get creative. My husband is known to hide an item or two in the store until he returns. Like taking the clearance lotion and placing it on a back shelf and behind something in the pet department. Or you can try to ask the cashier or customer service to hold it until you return. Try any creative method. You may be able to buy the item, then go home and get your coupon, go back to the store and return the item, and re-buy it with your coupon. Great deals cause for drastic measures!

I also use the tablet to record the "buy price" for an item. The "buy price" is the best price for an item when you actually need the item. I start with the Sam's price, which is a price I am willing to pay if I had to buy it that day, and update as I see the prices lower at other stores. For example, my "buy price" for laundry detergent is 13 cents per load or $14.84 per 110 load/170 oz bottle. This is the Sam's Club price for Member's Mark laundry detergent. If I know this price, determining my "stock up" price is easy. The "stock up" price will be anything lower than the "buy price". So when I see laundry detergent priced at 12 cents per load with a coupon and I need laudry detergent, I buy laundry detergent. If I see it at 7 cents, or 50+ percent lower than my "buy price", I buy lots of it or stock up. I may even buy coupons on Ebay if it is an item really need or like.

Now back to the organizing. I also made a folder for printable coupons, and I keep them in order of expiration date. I also have a store coupons folder to keep those Target type coupons I spoke about last week. (here)

Whew! That should get us to next week. Try to organize your coupons this way or let me know about your method.

Read more about Shellie's couponing tips here. The key is to JUST DO IT!

Next week we will discuss where you can use your coupons to save the most money.

The “My Life” Book Club - MLBC

2010-02-19T04:00:00.001-06:00

As my love of reading has increased, so has my desire to talk to others about what I am reading. I was chatting online with my sister-in-law, who has been very supportive of my blogging adventure, and we thought about the idea of having an online book club. Today's post is about sculpting the book club to be what we want and need it to be. So I need your ideas.

I was thinking we could select a book and allow ourselves two weeks to read it. (I realize that life happens, and not many of us have the time to read a book in a few sittings. Also, two weeks is the length of time you can have a book checked out from the library.) I will then post a question or two to begin our discussion about the book after the two week period, and all you have to do is post a comment on my blog to enter your thought into the discussion. There could also be a teaser question after the first week just to see if you have been reading. I can also include prizes…I love games…and I love prizes!

What ideas do you have for the MLBC? Would you like to be a member? Reading is fun, but it can be more fun if you do it with friends.

Leave a comment. Would you be interested in the MLBC? Do you have any book suggestions? How can I fashion the club and questions to entice you to read with us?

Book Signing

2010-02-18T22:15:00.000-06:00

Monday my daughter and I were blessed to attend a book signing with Erin Chase the $5 Dinner Mom. I follow Erin's blog at http://www.5dollardinners.com/, and I was excited to hear about the book signing in Houston.

When blogging you get to a point where you feel like you know people because you read their words every day, but you don't really KNOW them. I found out about Erin's blog and book through Tricia's website http://www.onceamonthmom.com/, but I had never met her. This outing was also special because it was my daughter's first trip to the main library in Houston. We frequent the library in our area, but rarely come into town for a library visit. My daughter loves visiting the "tall buildings where mama works".

I really enjoyed meeting Erin, and finally getting a copy of her book. If you know me, I am sure you are aware of my family's frugal nature and desire to save money. Erin has given me hope that I can transfer that mentality to the dinner table. During the book signing Erin graciously allowed us to ask any questions about cooking, couponing, saving money, shopping, etc. The dialog with her and others was priceless. More than anything, the ability to talk with others who are just like you is comforting. I guess that is what blogging is really all about, talking and sharing with those who have like interests.

The book is also fascinating in that pretty much all of the meals are made from scratch. This will surely help me as I strive to be a card carrying member of the Whole Grain Movement.

My daughter and I really enjoyed the experience, and encourage you to head over to http://www.5dollardinners.com/ and check out a few frugal recipes.

Leave a comment. Are you willing to try a $5 dinner? Hop over to Erin's site (here) and try a recipe. Let me know which one and we can try it together. Do you have your own frugal dinner you cook for your family?

Video of the Day

2010-02-17T05:00:00.003-06:00

Welcome to Wednesday. You can make it. Friday is only two days away.

Watch this video...gives you something to think about.

Palindrome. Lost Generation.

Leave a comment. Let me know what you think.

Someone Should’ve Told Me…

2010-02-16T08:16:00.001-06:00

Yesterday, my husband came across video of my daughter during her first few months of life, and I was overwhelmed with emotion as I watched it. The memories of that time came flooding back, and I realized how much she has grown. Now that she is three I often think of the things I wish someone would have told me about parenthood. When I dropped my daughter off at school today I was reminded of a very important "someone should've told me" moment…the first day of school. I was under the impression that the first day of school blues referred to the first day of kindergarten - the special day when you watch your now six year old walk into the halls of elementary school, with their backpack and lunch kit, ready to face the world. I thought, looking into the future, that this would be the most difficult day for me, but little did I know, the first day of school blues starts with the first day of DAYCARE. Someone should've told me.

I remember my daughter's first day of daycare like this:

I had prepared myself for the last four months to hand my child over to "the school". Finding a school was not easy, and convincing myself that I was ready was not a piece of cake either. I remember spending the night before the first day packing her bag, and going over the hand written instructions I would present to her new teacher. (Type A people!) I was able to rest that night knowing that I had sufficiently prepared for the next day – the handoff. The morning came, and I got her dressed. I told my boss I would be late just in case things went haywire. I packed her into the car, she was so unsuspecting, and began the short drive to her new school. We arrived and entered her new class ready to greet the teacher, and she was not there. The lady I had spoke to and told my every concern and need was not there. I started to panic. I sat my daughter down as they told me the teacher would be out today. How could she be out on our first day? I tried to unpack my daughter's things and prepare for departure, but as I was getting everything organized in her new space I realized I forgot something – the pacifier. OH NO! This was a bad sign. She had to have her pacifier. I knew for sure this was a bad idea. I couldn't leave my child. I just couldn't do it. The very nice lady at the school probably assumed I was losing it because at that moment I announced I had forgotten the pacifier and I would have to take my daughter back home to get it. The teacher looked at me with concern and offered to keep my daughter at school until I returned with the pacifier. I told her that was not a good idea and I wanted to take her with me. So right then I did an about-face with my daughter in hand and bolted through the door back into the comfort of my car. I left everything at the school except my child, and I was not confident of my return. I just knew I had to get out of there. I felt the walls closing in. I had no teacher, no pacifier, and no guts. I sped out of the parking lot of the school with tears in my eyes. I had no hope of being able to complete this transaction. (NOTE: My daughter is completely clueless and enjoying the ride.) While I drove towards home with a goal of retrieving the pacifier, I called my mother. I remember my exact words, "Why didn't you tell me it would be THIS hard." Tears were streaming down my face at this time, and all I remember my mother saying is that I needed to pull over and I should not drive in my condition. I pulled over into the middle school parking lot by my house and got it all out. I cried and tried to explain what happened, as not to completely terrify my mother who was across town. I am sure if she could have teleported herself to my location she would have done so. My mother's words in response to my question were, "I could not have told you how hard it was going to be. You were going to have to experience it for yourself." Her words comforted me, and I was somewhat pleased that I was not the only one who had this type of experience. At that point I collected myself, returned home, retrieved the pacifier, and returned to the school. When I returned the very nice lady no longer had a concerned look on her face, yet she had the "It's her first time" caring look on her face. (I am sure someone filled her in after I ran out with the child.)

I had done it. I successfully dropped my daughter off for her first day of daycare.

Now the rest of the day, if told by my co-workers, was not good. I arrived at work with my sunglasses on, and I asked them not to talk to me much. It was a hard day.

Looking back three years later, I learned a lot from the process. Here are the things I wish someone would have told me.

It WILL be hard handing your child off for the first time – not just hard - REALLY HARD.
You will make it…it will take about two weeks…but you will make it.
It is normal that you feel this way, and you are not the only one.

Here is something I am glad my mom told me…you will have to experience it for yourself. She was 100% right. Words could not have prepared me for the experience of the first day of daycare, and I am not sure I would have believed it was going to be that bad. I am sure of one thing…the first day of kindergarten will be BAD too, and I am ok with that. It's natural.

The Whole Grain Movement

2010-02-15T20:26:00.001-06:00

Yesterday I had an epiphany regarding food – I want to eat healthier. We are eating much better these days since I have started cooking a lot more, but I am often curious about what is next. What can I do to make our meals healthier? I began reading healthy cookbooks after our trip to the library last week, and I noticed a few things about all of the recipes.

Whole wheat (breads and pastas)
Whole grain/multi grain
Wheat germ
Brown rice
Vegetables
Fruit

After reading the recipes and looking at our pantry, I realized that wheat and whole grains are lacking in our household. I think the primary color of our starches is WHITE. (White bread, white rice, white potatoes, white pasta) What would happen if I made changes to the type of pastas, rice and breads we buy? In the recent past I have made changes to the way we cook instituting a no frying rule (unbeknown to my hubby), and an eat out less rule. We have seen success in my opinion. Therefore, I have set out to change our lifestyle again by revamping our pantry. Now a special note is required here because if you read my post on Saturday you know I am a couponaholic, and with all couponaholics comes STOCKPILING. The art of stockpiling involves buying things when they are super cheap or free, and buying a lot of the item. I have done this with toothpaste, soap, dishwasher tablets, and food. Our pasta and rice supply is abundant, and I will therefore have to slowly build our pantry.

My goals to institute the Whole Grain Movement are:

Only buy whole grain wheat bread
Add more fresh fruit
Add brown rice to our pantry
Add whole grain pasta to our pantry
Limit the "artificial"
Add sweet potatoes (not just at Thanksgiving)
Discover wheat germ

My biggest fear is that our taste buds will notice the change in ingredients. So I need your help.

Leave a comment. Let me know how what changes you have made, or intend to make, to join the Whole Grain Movement. Most importantly, share your favorite recipe with whole grain ingredients. I will try them all and write a post about it. Also, what is wheat germ?

Happy Monday!

Happy Valentine's Day

2010-02-14T15:15:00.000-06:00

Happy Valentine's Day.

Let's consider the ultimate giver of love - God. He gave His only Son so we could live eternally. I am blessed to experience a love like that on this day.

1 Corinthians 13:4-8

Love is...

Patient
Kind
Not envious
Not boastful
Not proud
Not rude
Not self-seeking
Not easily angered
Keeps no record of wrongs
Does not delight in evil
Rejoices with the truth
Always protects
Always trusts
Always hopes
Always perseveres
Never fails

http://www.crosswalk.com/

Leave a comment. Let me know what you think. Do you feel God's love? How do you know He loves you?

Saturday Savings

2010-02-13T15:16:00.000-06:00

This is my first post pertaining to my new favorite hobby – saving money and couponing. I am going to try to contain myself, and not share too much in this first post. Couponing can appear overwhelming if you don't get the information in doses and in the right order. Over the next few Saturdays I will cover the basics in hopes of persuading you to try your hand at saving money and couponing too.

I will give you various links to the sites that helped me get started during this process. Take it slow. If you develop the right plan that works for you and your family, you just may have a new hobby too!

Post 1 – What are coupons and where do I find them?

The first step to understanding couponing is to always keep this in mind – A COUPON IS A FORM OF PAYMENT. This will become very important as we learn more about this process, but it is something my husband taught me early on that has helped me in many situations.

Coupons come in many forms, but for this post we will cover two types:

Coupons offered by the manufacturer
Coupons offered by the store

Coupons that come in the mail have two distinctions – manufacture's coupon and store coupon. Manufacture's coupons are the norm, but as stores desire to build their shopper base, the store coupon is becoming more popular. Manufacture's coupons are just that, coupons that, when you use them as a form of payment, the amount shown on the coupon is reimbursed to the store by the maker of the product. It is their way of promoting a product, just like a commercial. Some people see using a coupon as stealing or not paying, and once you read this post by A Thrifty Mom (click here), you will know that all are benefiting from the use of the coupon.

Benefits

The manufacturer (i.e. – Johnson and Johnsons or Ziploc) benefits from you using the coupon to try their products. There are many items that I will not try unless I have a coupon. Rationale behind that is the same as why Sam's Club offers you a taste test while shopping in the store. They want you to try it for free, determine if you like it, and finally purchase the product from their store.
The store benefits because they receive your business to use the coupon as well as a processing fee for organizing and mailing in EACH coupon back to the manufacturer that you submit.
Finally, and most importantly, YOU benefit by saving money on products you already use or products you want to try.

Coupons are also offered by the store. The major difference is who reimburses for the coupon. For your use, it doesn't matter who reimburses because what you would like to know is store coupons can be used WITH manufacturer's coupons in most stores. The couponing term for this is stacking. Here is a scenario. You have a Target store coupon for Oreos allowing you to take $1.00 off the price of a pack of Oreos. You also have a coupon from Nabisco allowing you to take $1.00 off the price of a pack of Oreos. If you go to Target and the Oreos are 2/$6 or $3.00 each, you are allowed $2.00 off the price, which makes the price you pay $1.00 for a $3.00 pack of Oreos. Here is a photo of how the differentiate a store coupon and a manufacturer's coupon. Here is how you can tell the difference. Look at the top of the coupon below. It clearly states manufacturer's coupon.

Now look at this coupon. It is a store coupon.

You should know that a store logo does not make a coupon a store coupon. Some manufacturer coupons have store logos, but can be used at any store. More on that in a later post.

Tip: Try your best to use coupons for items that are on sale giving you a greater savings. If you just have to buy an item at regular price, try your best to add a coupon as a form of payment.

Finding coupons is becoming easier by the minute. Here are some options:

Newspaper – The old fashion way.
Benefit – You can access the Sunday newspaper easily, it won't cost you much, you can have it delivered to your home, and if you really need a coupon you can buy multiples (or ask a friend to save their paper for you.) I will explain why you need multiples in the next post.
Online – Printable coupons are the new way to obtain coupons.
Benefit – You can print them whenever you want to, but you have to jump up them because quantities may be limited.
In the stores/on the product (peelies)
In the mail – Sign up for coupons to come directly to your house via the manufacturer.
Ebay – You can always buy them from people who flip them for you.

That's all for today. I know that is enough to think about for now. For additional reading, and to brush up for the next post, check out this link from my coupon organizing mentor Shellie (click here), as she covers how she organizes her coupons. I have adopted her method with a few tweeks. (I will share those next week.)

Leave a comment. Let me know what you think or if you have any questions. Are you a couponaholic? My name is Laura and I am a couponaholic. I am on my way to Target now! (This is also my daughter's favorite store.)

Clean Sweep

2010-02-12T05:00:00.008-06:00

Up until two months ago we had a wonderful housekeeper coming into our home every other Saturday to clean the house. It was wonderful. I never had to scrub toilets, mop floors, or change bed sheets. She did everything, and I loved it. We were blessed to have someone pick up the slack as our lives appeared to be busier than ever. Every other Saturday morning she would come at 7:30 am, and I would happily rise to answer the doorbell to begin our clean sweep. We had this relationship for about 8 months, and about 5 months ago I started assisting with the clean sweep. I would gather items and put them away ahead of her "real" cleaning. This became a way of life because we constantly had problems finding things after she left. No, she was not stealing, but she was putting things away in places we would not normally put them. We had a saying around our house when we looked for things after she cleaned…where would Tracey (name changed) put this? We always found the item, but sometimes it was a few days later or a few weeks later. This prompted me to start putting things away ahead of her. After about 2 months of participating in this fashion it began to dawn on me that maybe I was doing the actual cleaning and she was just "using the chemicals." As the months rolled on, and we looked for ways to adjust our budget because we just purchased a much needed new car, I decided it was time to try my hand at cleaning. I noted two major challenges to this project:

Time
Level of Difficulty

Time was my greatest enemy. Being that I work outside of the home, my time is already limited. I can barely find enough time in the day to work then come home, play with my daughter, interact with my husband, cook, wash clothes, give baths, prep for the next day, and have some ME time. How was I going to take on cleaning this whole house? Now you may be thinking, "Laura, what did you do before the housekeeper?" The answer would be…and I am a bit ashamed to say…not much. I did the minimum and sometimes less than minimum. I would change sheets when they seemed dirty. Toilets were not really my thing. Mopping…what is that? I would tidy and put things away to give the appearance of clean. I did not do this out of laziness; however I had convinced myself that I had no time to deep clean my home. So when the housekeeper became an option I was overjoyed and amazed at how clean our house could really be if I just had the time.

My second enemy was level of difficulty. I had again convinced myself that cleaning like the housekeeper was too hard. I do not really know how to mop. I have seen it on TV, and honestly I think using my Swiffer with the spray in it is actual mopping. I didn't even own a mop bucket until about two years ago. Sad, I know, but true. I knew I could not do windows, and toilets just grossed me out. I don't do well dusting because the dust gets in my nose and makes my allergies act up. I can't make the pretty vacuum lines in the carpet like my husband and the housekeeper. I just knew I was incapable of getting this task done on my own.

Now at this point I was disgusted with my own thoughts, and I decided to revert back to the teachings of my mother and grandmother. I picked myself up, and realized I am a child of the only true and living GOD. If I want to clean my house, then I can clean this house. So, I began to scour the internet looking for assistance with these parameters:

An organized process (pretty much tell me exactly what I need to do)
A timely process (let it not take all night long)

My first find was the Household Cleaning Tasklist at MommySnacks.net. This list is well organized and it seems to include everything possible one can do while cleaning ones house. It is categorized by day and room/zone. It has what I am looking for – something or someone to tell me exactly what I needed to do. My only concern is I would have to work very hard in the beginning to adapt the style of the list to my lifestyle, andit proved to be a very time consuming process. Now I am feeling like the enemy is trying to win because I have chosen to believe God will provide, and at that very moment, God steps in, and I find my clean sweep. Through a comment by a reader of a blog I was following, I found the website that has changed my house cleaning life forever. (See why comments are so helpful. You may have the bit of insight that will help someone just stopping by.) MotivatedMoms.com's Printable Chore List is a wonderful tool that has met and continues to meet all of my needs for house cleaning. It is a very organized process and it is adaptable to my time and lifestyle. I even get Bible verses too! I am able to print out my weekly chore list and put it in my planner. It just blends in with my everyday life.

Now, I know that one checklist cannot change my feelings on cleaning, God has done that. I now take pride in my home and the cleanliness of it. I actually realize that I do have time for cleaning and I can do it well, even better than my housekeeper. The Motivated Moms method makes all the things I should be doing within my house visible and therefore attainable. It even puts items on the checklist for my daughter, like clipping her fingernails, which I needed to be more consistent in doing. For a nominal cost of $7 (with coupon code from RetailMeNot.com), I am able to clean my house and stay on top of the project all year long. To be completely honest and transparent, I slip up at times and fall behind on my "chores", but I have learned to forgive myself. My goal is to make this type of cleaning a way of life so that it becomes second nature. I am well on my way.

Let me know what you think. Leave a comment…it just might help someone. Have you mastered mopping? Teach me, please!

Snow Day

2010-02-11T07:00:00.001-06:00

To my family and friends on the East coast who are stuck in the snow...we remember. Greetings from Texas. This is my daughter playing in the snow in New Jersey over the Christmas holiday. This was her first real snow, and she enjoyed every minute of it. Stay warm.

A Bit of Laughter

2010-02-10T09:18:00.000-06:00

Here is a little something to make you laugh. I know it makes me laugh every time I see it. As we make it over the hump today, let us laugh and enjoy the rest of our week.

Let me know what you think. Leave a comment. Have you ever had to make this face? Who was the recipient of your "evil eye"?

Cooking – My New Therapy

2010-02-09T08:49:00.001-06:00

Cooking is my new therapy, and I figured this out one "not so good day". The "not so good day" left me overwhelmed and confused. I felt defeated and all used up, but when I got home I started cooking and things slowly began to change. Now for those who know me this may be a surprise. I have displayed a moderate joy of cooking in my life, but not to the extent of being calmed by it. That "not so good day" I cooked until my problems went away. My new favorite cooking is freezer cooking, which I learned from Tricia over at Once A Month Mom. (A blog I follow of course. Click on the link and see for yourself. http://www.onceamonthmom.com/) Tricia makes everything so easy, and now by using her method (modified to fit my family's needs) we always have something available to eat. We eat out less and we eat far less in portion size. I try to cook one freezer meal a week. My first week on the freezer program I cooked quite a few meals to stockpile the freezer, but now I am just replenishing. My favorite Once A Month freezer meal is Baked Ziti, but I add meat to mine, ground turkey of course. I generally have all of the ingredients at home, and I just whip it up and toss it in the freezer for a later date. Another great Once A Month freezer meal is Apple Streusel Muffins. My daughter loves them, and I can just thaw one out the night before, zap it in the microwave for a few seconds while I am putting her in the car seat, and drop it in her bag for breakfast at school. Very easy, and she loves the ability to have a breakfast cupcake.

With therapy comes equipment, and my new favorite piece of cooking equipment is the slow cooker with the removable, washable dish on the inside that my Mother- In-Law graciously passed on to me. I have become a chicken master with my slow cooker, and I even cooked chicken on the bone. Crazy I know. I even touched the bone. Absolutely amazing.

A special shout out to my Sister-In-Law for passing on the peach cobbler recipe from Thanksgiving, which is now her brother's number one potluck request. Also, thank you to my other Sister-In-Law for showing me around the kitchen when I used to practically live at her house. We were there so much that something good must have rubbed off on me.

I know I may have a problem when a trip to Bed Bath and Beyond is the absolute highlight of my day. My honey took me there yesterday and I got to get a new OXO measuring cup, new kitchen tongs (the kind with the thing you push in at the top to make it stay closed - two of them), a silicone cupcake pan, and a citrus zester. I was so excited...presents...for me...the new chef!

Let me know what you think. Leave a comment. What is your favorite recipe? Do you do any freezer cooking?

Bookworm

2010-02-08T07:00:00.001-06:00

Mondays are generally the day we visit the library. My daughter is a book lover, and now that I am not reading for education but reading for leisure, I am a book lover too. This month my daughter's preschool is collecting books for charity, and we will gather books from our home library to donate. It is amazing how many children do not have access to books, and I would like to challenge you to find a way to donate a book to someone who doesn't have one. Perhaps through your church or other organization you may be able to organize a book drive/event to pass on the love of reading. I read to my daughter daily, and last year, as a two year old, she completed the summer reading program at our local library. Now it was a lot of work for me being that I was the actual reader, but when I realized we read over 100 books in three months I was encouraged to keep up the good work. Reading is fundamental, and my daughter's love of reading has pushed me to love reading again. I have taken to African-American fiction authors, and have fallen in love with Kimberla Lawson Roby. I am on the waiting list for her new book "Be Careful What You Pray For" at my local library.

As we prepare for Read Across America Day, March 2, 2010, let's curl up with a good book, find a way to give a book to another, and spread the love of reading all over the world.

Let me know what you think. Leave a comment. What book is on your night stand right now? What book did you have to read to your son or daughter EVERY night? (We really love Silly Sally)

Welcome to “My Life As A…”

2010-02-07T07:00:00.000-06:00

Welcome to "My Life As A…" This blog is meant to be a compilation of thoughts and a catalyst to discussion. I suppose the concept of blogging has always appealed to me, but I have never had the courage to follow through. I want this blog to be honest…transparent…loving…educational…inspiring. The birth of my daughter has taught me a lot about life including patience and unconditional love, and with those thoughts in mind I started "My Life As A…" This blog is also a part of a larger goal which is my Project Life photo a day challenge. Thanks to Becky Higgins I am able to scrapbook without all of the "stuff", and I am able to maintain organization, which is so necessary for my type-A personality. My Project Life challenge, a wonderful birthday gift from my wonderful husband along with "this here laptop", allows me to journal and take a photo daily of my daughter's life. I will use this blog to "keep up" and stay on task. I will use this blog to document my life and the life of my daughter during her 3^rd year of life, which happens to start TODAY. Happy Birthday baby!

Currently, we are headed to a live performance of Sesame Street with our family and friends. (This day is also Super Bowl Sunday, which is something I did not realize when I selected this birthday event three months ago. (Thanks to my type-A, super-organized, anticipatory personality). It is my hope that all of our guests will arrive to their Super Bowls viewing destination prior to kick-off, and we apologize for any inconvenience Sesame Street may have caused. Additionally, we thank you for choosing to celebrate with us, and putting the Saints and Colts on hold for Elmo. (Thanks Daddy.)

Another great achievement for the week was a successful "school birthday" on Friday, being that her birthday falls on a weekend this year. (NOTE: School birthday celebration is a must being that all the other kids celebrate their birthday at school with cupcakes and children singing loudly. Perhaps it's a rite of passage. My daughter has been waiting patiently through everyone else's turn for 364 days!)
Why a blog Laura? I am glad you asked. I am all about "keeping up" with family and friends. (I know many of you are aware of my Shutterfly.com and picture taking addiction.) I wanted to do something different than make Shutterfly books all the time, and something more personal than a photo album webpage with monthly updates. I want to talk to all of you.

My blog experience started because of couponing. ( I have yet another confession – I AM A COUPONAHOLIC!) I am in love with saving money and I learned a lot of what I know about couponing from my husband. He is Mr. Frugal. (Family, please stop laughing.) However, I have taken his ART and turned it into my OBSESSION. I read my first "thrifty" blog, Saving With Shellie, and I was hooked. I saved so much money just taking Shellie's advice in the first month, and I was so excited to talk to others who are like me. Now I follow about 15 thrifty blogs with my RSS Feed account at Google Reader. (A later post will explain how I ventured into this century and learned about RSS. Don't worry. I came fighting and you can too!) This led me to my love of blogging, and now I want to share that love with you.

My goal for this year is to post at least once daily, and provide content that is transparent . I welcome you to comment on my thoughts because they are just thoughts. I will share my ups and down as well as my successes and failures as a mother, a wife and a friend with you.

Leave a comment. Let me know what you think. Welcome to "My Life As A…" Enjoy.