Video of the Week

This is by far my favorite commerical right now.  Every time I see the little girl's expression I can't help but laugh.  She is too funny.  Take a look, and happy Wednesday.

A Very Exciting Day

As many of you know I have been blogging now for almost two months. I have enjoyed every minute of this experience, but today was the most exciting day of my little blogging life.

What started out as an ordinary morning of checking emails turned up a very exciting discovery. I have started a book club "My Life Book Club" in hopes of communicating with those who enjoy reading as I do. I announced the book club's inaugural selection on March 19^th as "What Doesn't Kill You" by Virginia DeBerry and Donna Grant, and today I received a comment on the blog post from the authors themselves. (Check it out here. - Scroll to comments section at the bottom of the page.) The authors thanked us for choosing them. I just about fell out of my chair after reading the comment. How did they know we were reading their book? I am so excited.

Now for many I am sure this is no big deal, but to me it is huge. It means people actually read my blog. When you sit at a computer and don't actually see others reading your words it can sometimes be discouraging, but reading that comment today was all of the encouragement I need. So "My Life Book Club" members…keep reading. Enjoy the story, and enjoy posting your comments on this blog. The authors may be listening.

Ready, Set, Go - My Life Book Club

Today is the day.  Let's get started!  MLBC is off an running.  Here is what you need to know to get started:

Book Selection: "What Dosen't Kill You" by DeBerry and Grant

About the Book:

“I really thought I had a handle on life—then it broke off.”

Straight-talking and witty, Tee is a fly forty-something. Divorced since her daughter was young, Tee has been “handling her business,” and she’s done all right. Organized, responsible and loyal, Tee went from being the first employee of a start-up purveyor of organic lotions to the right-hand of the president of what became a major player in the home and personal fragrance market.

But then everything changes and for he first time in 25 years, Tee doesn’t know who she is or what she’s going to do. She spent her life investing her hopes and dreams in someone else’s. Now it’s her chance to invest in herself. Can she step out on faith and a dream?

About the Authors:
With five novels to their credit, Virginia DeBerry and Donna Grant, best friends for 25 years, have turned a friendship into the most successful and enduring writing collaboration in African American fiction.

Begin Reading - March 29, 2010

Complete Reading - April 12, 2010 (As agreed - two weeks for reading.)

Follow this blog for discussion questions and prizes!

A Prayer for Avery

This morning while at church the Pastor brought up a young couple about my age and we prayed for them.  The husband, wife and little baby are facing a very challenging situation.  The baby, not more than 4 months old, is going to have open heart surgery this Thursday.  Her name is Avery, and she is beautiful.

I am asking that you add Avery to your prayer list.  Please keep her parents in your prayers as well for strength during this time.  I cannot imagine what the family is going through right now, but I do know that the prayers of the righteous avail much.  If you believe in the power of prayer, I ask that you pray for Avery this week.  I do not know their last name, and I do not know the full extent of Avery's illness.  What I do know is that a God knows, and He is much bigger than any of our problems.

Take it to God.  Take everything to Him in prayer.  May God strengthen you as well during your time of struggle.

Top 5 - Sunny Day Edition

So it is very late for people like me who think about going to bed at 9 pm, and the reason I am up do late can be blamed on the amazing weather we are having in Houston today.  I did clean the house this morning, but after that it was time to soak up the sun.  In honor of sunny days, I would like to offer my list of the top 5 things I LOVE about sunny days.  (Along with a couple of things I am not too fond of.)

1. Sandals and flip flops.  I guess that means it is time for a pedicure.
2. Sunglasses.  I love wearing sunglasses.  The problem I usually run into is finding them, and finding them in one piece.  My three year old is a fan of sunglasses too.  She has her own pair in a sunglass holder in my car.  If I put mine on then she must put hers on.
3. Water.  Swimming, the beach, the pool, water balloons, or even drinking a tall glass of water on a warm sunny day.
4. Rolling the windows down.  With my sunglasses on, and my Carrie Underwood playing a little too loud. (Now you know that is when I am in the car by myself...when others accompany me it's the "choo choo" song all day long!)
5. Not having to turn on the AC.  This would mean the sunny day is a spring day and not a hot Houston summer day.  Anytime I can keep money in my pocket and away from the electric company is a good day.

Two things I don't enjoy...

1. Sunscreen.  I know we must use it, but it is certainly a task to apply.
2. Having an appointment or having to work on the sunny day.  Looking out of the window and seeing others enjoy what you long to enjoy is tough.

I hope you enjoy your sunny day.

Toy Story Deal

My sister-in-law is very excited about this deal, so I thought I would pass it along to you.  I think my daughter is too young and my step-son is too old to enjoy it, so I guess I just passed this deal right on by.  However, there are some that would like to know about this super deal.  So here you go.

Toy Story 1 and Toy Story 2

Toys R Us
(1) Toy Story 1 DVD & Blu-Ray Combo Pack $16.99
(1) Toy Story 2 DVD & Blu-Ray Combo Pack $16.99 (you must buy both to get this price)
- (2) $10/1 Toy Story Printable Coupons (if you already own the movie)
= $6.99 each! ($11.99 ea. with $5 coupons if you don't own the movie)

Thanks Stephanie. Visit the Couponing 101 post here and read the comments for a price match scenairo at Target with an even better price.  Also check out the other stores with a Toy Story deal.  Click here.
 
Good luck!

Thrifty Thursday

A constant here at My Life As… is the Thrifty Thursday Deals of the Week. Here are the rules I try to live by when compiling the deals:

1. I will list the best deal, in my opinion, for each store.
2. I will give you the item and the coupon you should clip and take to the store.
3. I will link back to the website I received the deal from so you can see more matchups.
4. I will try to stick to those items that are free or nearly free.

Happy Shopping!

This week is a slow week for freebies.  I only see a good deal at Kroger this week.  Don't forget the Kroger March To Savings event (when you buy 8) continues.  Check out Stephanie's post for more information.

Kroger Deal 3/24 to 3/30
Pillsbury Grands! Biscuits 98¢
- 30¢/2 Pillsbury Grands Biscuits Coupon (Smart Source 3/7/10)
= 68¢ ea.
 
Thanks Stephanie - Couponing 101.  See the entire post here.

Also, Andrea at MommySnacks.net has two Kroger giftcards to give away on her blog.  Click here to learn more about how to enter for your chance to win.  You must enter by Sunday at 8 pm.

Good luck!

Video of the Week

Sometimes as a mom you would like to change your name...and this is why.

Friday is coming.  Hang in there.

I Want To Be Known As…

I took a moment today to think about what I would love to have said about me at my funeral. I know that sounds a little dark, but just walk with me. I remember going to a funeral with my mom years ago, and I was absolutely touched by the things people had to say about my mom's friend. I listened to them all speak about this woman with such love and respect, and it was at that moment that I decided that I wanted to be remembered like that at my funeral. One of the things I want to be known as is – SELFLESS.

By definition SELFLESS means thinking of others first or putting other people's needs, interests, or wishes before your own. When I leave this earth destined for Heaven I hope the word SELFLESS is used to describe me. SELFLESS is certainly how I would describe Jesus, my greatest role model.

I think it is important to consider how you will be remembered because it will help you make decisions today. As a result I would like to present to you the top five ways I resolve to be more SELFLESS:

1. Pray more for others. I know I can be a little self-centered when it comes to praying by always talking to God about my problems. However, I can only imagine the power in praying for others. I resolve to spend more time focusing on the prayer requests of others.
2. Spend more time with family. Because my family is spread across the far reaches of this country it becomes hard to stay connected. I want to spend more time writing letters, sending cards, making phone calls, sending emails, and keeping up with this blog as a way to connect with family. I resolve to do these things no matter how busy my life may seem.
3. Listen more attentively. Being born in the microwave generation, fast and easy are our favorite words. I really want to spend more time listening. When my friends or family call on me, I resolve to spend more time listening to them and less time talking about myself.
4. Teach my children to be SELFLESS. It is really important to me to pass good character traits on to my children, and this is a great place to start. I resolve to take the time to teach SELFLESSNESS to my children daily. (Most importantly through my actions.)
5. Be as transparent as possible. I know this one seems strange, but I strongly feel that being an open book for others can help them through difficult times. People learn best from experience or from the experience of others, but how can they learn anything if we aren't willing to share. I know for a fact that there is no benefit in hiding who we are or pretending that we are something we are not. I want you to know about my mistakes so you will not make them yourself. We have to learn from one another, and I resolve to be open about my experiences, especially in this blog. If you want to know, just ask.

How do you want to be remembered at your funeral? Leave a comment.

Someone Should’ve Told Me

Now that my daughter is three and I would officially call her potty trained, I realize that I was not told the whole truth when it came to potty training. Someone should've told me that potty training takes a really long time.

When I was pregnant I read all of the right books, and all of those books talked about potty training like it was "no big deal". I actually received my very first potty at a baby shower from my aunt, and I received my second potty as a gift for my daughter's first birthday. I purchased my third potty from Wal-mart to ride in the back of my SUV. I purchased my first potty seat cover from Target when my daughter was about two years old, and I bought my first folding travel potty seat cover shortly after that. I never realized that potty training required so much equipment. I ordered my free potty training DVD from the Pull Up people, and I had every type of Pull Up imaginable. I even had cute training panties. I knew I was ready to conquer this potty training thing.

Just for clarification, here is why I needed all of those potty supplies:

1. The baby shower potty #1 is the potty that is in the downstairs bathroom.
2. The potty seat #2 is the potty that is in the guest bathroom.
3. The Wal-mart potty #3 is the potty that is in the back of my SUV. (You will not believe me when I tell you that potty has been the most useful of all.)
4. The Target potty seat cover is for the bathroom in the master suit.
5. The folding travel potty seat, from Wal-mart too, was purchased out of necessity. (I had to do something to keep potty training up on our first trip away from home.)

Now what I wish someone would have let me in on about potty training:

1. Pull Ups are EVIL. They are just over priced pampers, and I would limit the use of them as much as possible.
2. The cute panties are nice, but not practical for potty training girls. Go for the square bottom potty training undies from Wal-mart. They come up and down easy, and have a little extra padding for the tiny accident.
3. Potty training takes a lot of time. It took my daughter about 8 months to get from her first tinkle to "fully potty trained".
4. Potty training takes scheduling. You always have to be aware of your potential bathroom break, and plan it into everything you do. (Enter potty seat in the SUV.)
5. Toilets in America are so nasty it will make your stomach turn. You will hate them even more when you have a potty training toddler to assist. My solution – Lysol disinfecting wipes, a folding travel potty seat, and Wet Ones.
6. The Pull Ups DVD is propaganda. It is not meant to do anything but make you feel warm and fuzzy. It's free, but take it with a grain of salt.
7. Potty training doesn't work if the child is not willing.
8. Your child WILL backslide during the potty training process. NO DOUBT ABOUT IT.
9. Going #1 and #2 are very different. My daughter would hide when it was time to do #2, and one day my husband and I watched her every move. She made a quick move towards her "spot", and we ambushed her and took her to the potty. #2 came out, and we cheered so loud that the neighbors could here. #2 in the potty from then on.
10. Night potty training can be hard, or it can be very easy…and I have no good reason why this is the case. We were blessed that our daughter did not have very many night accidents at all. Thank God for that.
11. Cheering is mandatory. You may sound like a crazy person to the individual in the stall next to you, but you must congratulate you child for a job well done. It will make them eager to do it over and over again. Conversely, you cannot harp on the accidents. Acknowledge them and move on. You will both be happier for it.
12. You will wash a ton of clothes during this potty training process. You will also wash some nasty clothes too. It's just part of the process. This too shall pass.

In all, the smile on my daughter's face when she realizes that she is a big girl and can go potty all by herself is well worth the challenges. The other great thing about having a potty trained child…say it with me gang…NO MORE BUYING DIAPERS! It is an expensive, but necessary part of life. You will be very glad to move on and use your money for other things.

How did your potty training go? If you are not there yet, what are you terrified about when it comes to potty training. Leave a comment.

Mickey Mouse Clubhouse – A Bible Lesson

I know the title of this post in and of itself may be a little…confusing, but I am going to give this to you as God gave it to me this morning.

Being that I have a three year old daughter I am blessed to watch quite a bit of the Mickey Mouse Clubhouse on the Disney Channel. Overall the show is pretty predictable, so I was surprised when the Lord visited me during the episode this morning. I was arrested while viewing Mickey Mouse and the gang, and I was taught a lesson about how God works in the process.

For those of you who have been blessed to watch Mickey Mouse Clubhouse as well, you may be familiar with the following characters - MouseKadoer, MouseKatools, and Toodles. These elements appear in every episode of the show, and their primary role is to provide the items the characters need in order to complete the task of that episode. The MouseKadoer is the big machine that loads the MouseKatools into Toodles. A better way to look at it is the MouseKadoer is the hardware store and Toodles is the tool box and the MouseKatools are the tools in the toolbox. (Sorry for being so simple.) While looking at the show this morning something hit me…this entire setup is very similar to how God works in our lives. Follow me now.

When the episode starts the characters are presented with a problem, and they turn to the MouseKadoer (hardware store) as ask for MouseKatools. Then in flies Toodles (the tool box) to receive the tools from the MouseKadoer. At this point in the show the characters are unaware of how the tools will be used. All they know is that the tools are available. Mickey then informs the audience that if you encounter a problem and find yourself in need of a tool, all you have to say is Oh Toodles, and he flies right in with all of your potential tools. Oh Toodles only carries four tools. The thing that struck me about the MouseKadoer is that it appears unaware of the challenges the characters will face, yet it is fully able to fill Toodles with the correct MouseKatools. I have never seen an episode where Mickey and the gang call on Toodles and he has the wrong tools. Hmmm. Is the MouseKadoer psychic or something? How does it know what tools to pack in Toodles?

The second thing I notice is Toodles is always available. No matter where Mickey and the gang are, Toodles is always one shout away. The characters yell Oh Toodles, and it appears. They never appear nervous about whether or not Toodles will show up no matter where they are. Toodles has shown up when they were in the desert, the beach, and even in outer space. Toodles never lets them down, and they never hesitate to call on him.

Finally, I noticed that Toodles is called on whenever they have a situation, but he is not necessarily there immediately. Now if you have seen an episode you may beg to differ, but I question why Toodles comes in on a wave, or a pair of skies over the mountain top, or from under water. Toodles could just pop onto the screen and that would be that, but my question is why does it take so long.

Here is what I have surmised about the Mickey Mouse Clubhouse, and how it became a Bible Lesson this morning:

1. The MouseKadoer acts the way God would in our situation.
2. The MouseKatools are chosen for us in each task of life.
3. Toodles sure acts like the Holy Spirit, and is always dependable.

The fact that the MouseKadoer already has the knowledge of the tools Mickey will need to meet the challenge of the day reminds me of how God has the ability to equip me with the tools necessary to meet any challenge in my day. Nothing is too great for God. The fact that the MouseKatools are chosen for the characters before the challenge is met reminds me that God can tell me what equipment to use when I meet that challenge. I don't need to do this on my own, and He will not put more on me than I can bear. The fact that Toodles is always there for Mickey when he needs him reminds me that God sent the Holy Spirit to us as a guide. The Holy Spirit is just as accessible to the Christian as Toodles is to Mickey Mouse. All we have to do is call on Him.

We have to remember that God has equip us with all we need to get through life, however we often meet challenges and attempt to use the tools without reading the instructions, or just by picking a tool out of the box that "looks right" for the situation. We should consult God at every turn. We should ask Him which of our tools we should use. We should never doubt that He will answer.

The thing that struck me most was figuring out why Toodles sometimes appears to take the scenic route. This action reminds me that I must be patient and wait on the Lord. I first have to have enough faith to call on Him and believe that He will answer, but if the answer isn't immediate, then I must not lose faith. I have to wait for my answer. God is not on our time. I struggle with this, and most in our generation do simply because we have been taught to "get it now" and ask questions later. This is not how God would have it. Ask Him first, and wait on the answer. You will be glad you did.

God can meet you anywhere. Even in your living room while watching Mickey Mouse.

Have a great week!

My New Favorite Thing

Some of you may be wondering how I keep up with all of the blogs you see listed on the left hand side of this post, and the answer is Google Reader.  I have fallen in love with the application, but it was very new to me when I first started.  Google Reader is yet another great way to stay connected and is part of the ever popular Google enterprise.  I am a firm believer that Google is the best search engine around, and Google Reader lives up to the high quality standards I have come to expect from anything carrying the Google name.

The best way to describe Google Reader is an email for your blogs.  The application gives you the ability to follow many blogs at one time, and read each post like an email.  I follow all of my money saving blogs via Google Reader.  I had to find a way to sort through the more than 200 posts a day to find the ones that I really need to know about.  Yes 200 per day.  Many times Google Reader is great because I can quickly sort through posts and eliminate those that are not in my area (i.e. Aldi) or those that don't pertain to me (i.e. dog posts).  I can also email myself and others if I see something worth sharing.

Google Reader is a great way to keep up with when blogs post new information.  When new posts are uploaded to the internet your reader will show you who has a new one and how many.  You can also do things like tag your favorite posts and rate them for relevance.  I am sure I have yet to learn all there is to know about Google Reader, but I would suggest it to anyone.  I also love how easy it is to follow someone new.  You can search for the blog right on the Google Reader site, and subscribe to the blog on the spot.  No mess and only a few clicks.  I would suggest you try following My Life As... on Google Reader.  I will be your guinea pig.  How about this...let's have our first contest.  Sign up for a Google Reader account, and follow my blog.  The 10th person to leave a comment on my blog telling me you joined and are following my blog will win a prize.

Here is how to enter.

1. Sign up for a Google Reader account. (click here) (If you already have a Google account you can use the same sign-in.)
2. After you sign up for Google Reader, return to My Life As... and subscribe to this blog by clicking the down arrow under "Subscribe To" and next to "Posts" on the top left column of the page.  Then click "Add to Google".
3. You will have two options - add to Google Homepage or add to Google Reader.
4. Return to My Life As... and leave a comment on this post letting me know you are a subscriber.  Your post must include your first name, city, and state.

The 10th person to comment about their subscription is a winner.  Check back to see if you have claimed the grand prize.

Have a great weekend.

My Life Book Club - Book Annoucement

It is time to announce the My Life Book Club (MLBC) inaugural book selection.  To read more about the book club, see my post here.

After much consideration, I have selected "What Dosen't Kill You" a novel by Virginia DeBerry and Donna Grant.

About the Book

“I really thought I had a handle on life—then it broke off.”

Straight-talking and witty, Tee is a fly forty-something. Divorced since her daughter was young, Tee has been “handling her business,” and she’s done all right. Organized, responsible and loyal, Tee went from being the first employee of a start-up purveyor of organic lotions to the right-hand of the president of what became a major player in the home and personal fragrance market.

But then everything changes and for he first time in 25 years, Tee doesn’t know who she is or what she’s going to do. She spent her life investing her hopes and dreams in someone else’s. Now it’s her chance to invest in herself. Can she step out on faith and a dream?

About the Authors

With five novels to their credit, Virginia DeBerry and Donna Grant, best friends for 25 years, have turned a friendship into the most successful and enduring writing collaboration in African American fiction.  Read their bios here.

Specifics

Begin Reading - March 29, 2010 (Gives you about a week to get the book. Library, Ebay, Amazon, book exchange, etc.)

Complete Reading - April 12, 2010 (As agreed - two weeks for reading.)

Follow this blog for discussion questions and prizes!

Happy Reading!

Thrifty Thursday

I had a few computer problems last night.  You still have time to experience these savings.

A constant here at My Life As… is the Thrifty Thursday Deals of the Week. Here are the rules I try to live by when compiling the deals:

1. I will list the best deal, in my opinion, for each store.
2. I will give you the item and the coupon you should clip and take to the store.
3. I will link back to the website I received the deal from so you can see more matchups.
4. I will try to stick to those items that are free or nearly free.

Happy Shopping!

Kroger Deal - Week of 3/17 - 3/23

Snickers 50¢
Use 50¢/2 Snickers Bars Coupon (Red Plum 02/21/10)
(Coupon doubles at my Kroger.)
Final Price = 2 Free

Thanks Stephanie. (Couponing 101 - See entire post here.)

*There is also a good promotion going on at Kroger.

March to Savings Event: Buy 8 participating items and Save $4 instantly! Mix & Match! Be sure to buy in groups of 8. I’ve only listed items with coupon match-ups, so there are other items included in this promotion. Check your ad/store for a complete list of participating products. Prices listed are after instant savings!  See Stephanie's list of participating products here.

Randall's (Safeway/Tom Thumb) - Week of 3/17 - 3/23
This is not a great week at Randall's, but here is something that may interest you.

CLEANING PRODUCTS PROMO
Buy 3+ participating cleaning products, get them for $1.99 each

Febreze Air Effects – $1.99
Use $1/1 Febreze Air Effects coupon (Proctor & Gamble 3/7)
Final Price = $.99

Scotch Brite Sponges – $1.99
Use $1/2 Scotch-Brite coupon (SS 1/31)
Final Price = $2.98 for 2

Soft Scrub – $1.99
Use $.50/1 Soft Scrub coupon (RP 3/7)
Final Price = $.99

Thanks Shellie. (Saving with Shellie - See entire post here.)

Video of the Week

It's Wednesday and I have the day off from work.  Yippie!  My daughter is going to cheer camp this morning.  I think she is going to love it!

Here is a little something you may not know about me...I am a HUGE Carrie Underwood fan.  I own all of her CDs.  Here is one of my favorite songs.

Enjoy!

Suffering Produces Perseverance

When I think of suffering I immediately equate it with tears, pain, hopelessness and despair, but I read a scripture today that tells a different story. Romans 5:3-4 exudes hope, and I was completely perplexed by the thought of hope in suffering. The scripture lays out a hierarchy that leads to hope, but it starts with suffering. Now how can that be? How can you go from something so negative and hurtful to something positive? "Rejoice in our suffering…suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope." Huh? Say that again…and say it very slowly. How can suffering be good?

After taking a minute to consider that surely God can't be wrong, I realized where He may be coming from. As I look back over my life, and I don't have to look back too far, I can recall times when I suffered. I was brought to tears over an experience and at that moment I could not see the light at the end of the tunnel. Suffering by definition is supposed to be hard. Synonyms for suffering are pain, anguish, distress, misery, agony, torment and affliction. I wondered how I could move on from this suffering, and certainly how I could achieve perseverance as a result of it. Now the concept of perseverance is tricky because at first glance it may appear to insinuate movement in one direction or towards something, but that would be the verb persevere meaning to continue and never give up. The word perseverance used here is a noun which speaks to ones insistence, urgency, determination and firmness. Now it was starting to make more sense. I believe it is possible that suffering can produce perseverance. Look at it this way. If a baby is told to stay away from the stove because it is hot, refuses, and touches the stove she will likely be burned and experience pain. Most babies when approached with the same situation in the future are determined not to feel that kind of pain again and will opt not to touch the stove. Suffering is a part of life, but what really matters is how we respond to the suffering. Consequently, how we respond, and with what level of determination, will put us in the perseverance category.

Knowing what I know now, I don't think I mind the suffering if I can experience the perseverance that can follow. My friend told me today that life is a marathon, and since I believe that is true, I know when I run I must be steady, and determined. I must be willing to work at life for the rest of my life. I have to work towards knowing who I am and what I stand for. I must be deliberate and aggressive in this race despite any difficulties or setbacks.

So it appears to be through our suffering that we grow, and it is certainly through our suffering that we develop who we are – our character. Therefore all that is left is HOPE. Now that is easy. Hope is God and it is only achieved through Him. Wow! So I guess you can go from pain, anguish and distress to hope. It is ironic that a definition to hope is somebody or something that seems likely to bring success or relief. Enough said.

Enjoy the rest of your day…and your sufferings.

Good Friends

My Grandma always told me you only need a few good friends, and now I know exactly what she meant.  I am truly blessed with a few friends that I have had for many years.  I love the fact that my friends have seen me through good times and bad times.  They have seen my ugly days and my most fabulous days.  I am really drawn to television shows and movies that depict friendship that lasts through the ages because that is what I would love to experience. 

I would like to highlight a friendship that I share with someone who is near and dear to me.  She has always been there for me, even when I was crying outside of class as I prepared for my 12th grade English final exam that I was sure I would fail and they would not let me graduate.  This friend is always there even though we live far away.  I can call her every day or once a quarter, and when we get on the phone it feels like we pick up where we left off.  No matter when I call her she answers, unless she is hiding being admitted into the hospital.  We have a motto for our friendship - "If you like it, then I love it."  This allows us the ability to voice our opinions, but in the end if the other person has a darn good reason for their actions, and it is not putting them in danger, then the other person is supportive until the very end.  My friend knows me; almost as well as anyone can know another person.  We were mistaken for each other in high school often, but ironically we did hang with the same people or aspire to do the same things.  We went on to college and she pledged a sorority...I was not feeling it.  She is great at being a sister!  We seem to travel through life on parallel paths.  If one calls with a problem or a need to vent, the other has just experienced the same thing, or has an experience that allows for an empathetic ear.  I don't know what I would do without her.  Our friendship has led me to a few conclusions about good friends:

1. Good friends transcend time and place.
2. Good friends don't judge you, but they do judge your actions.
3. Good friends are honest, but with so much love that you are not hurt by it.
4. Good friends never judge you by how many times you call or come see them.
5. Good friends always know when to speak and when to let you speak (or monopolize the entire conversation.)
6. Good friends are available day and night.
7. Good friends are understanding of your place in life.
8. Good friends allow you room to grow.
9. Good friends remind you of who you once were - for better or for worse.
10. Good friends can make you laugh so hard you cry.

I thank my friend for always knowing how to pick me up when I am down.  I am glad she is around to remind me of who I once was and to journey with me towards who I will become.  I love you. 

I pray you have a good friend, and not too many, to walk with you through life.  If you have not found that one, try being a friend to someone else.  Friendship is often contagious and is always selfless.

Happy Birthday Mama

Yesterday was my mom's birthday, and we surprised her with a visit to her job because she works on Saturdays.  We had a great time, and I am truly blessed to have my mother with me.  She is an amazing person and is loved by many.  I don't know what I would do without her.  She is my leaning post and my listening ear.  I love you Mama.  Happy Birthday.  This cake is for you!

Please let me explain.

Yesterday I had high hopes of completing my post after my daughter went to sleep...here lies the problem.  I was once again caught up in the beautiful blue skies, and I ran around all day soaking up the sun again. (See Friday's post here.)  When I finally got home it was time to cook, clean and spend family time.  At that point I decided I would post after my daughter went to sleep, however she did not go to sleep easily.  Let me explain.  My daughter currently spends most of her nights on the floor of our room on three fluffy comforters instead of her beautiful full size bed in her room.  She is in the imagination phase, and no matter how many monsters we slay or fish we remove from her bed, her room is not suitable for sleeping in her mind.  We have tried lots and lots of things, but have not been successful.  Last night we decided we would try to get her in the full size bed, even though she normally wakes in the middle of the night and ends up back on her comforter bed.  We tried for about an hour and a half with no results, and by the time we all moved back to the comforter bed I was spent, emotionally and physically.  So there you have it.  There reason I did not write a post yesterday.  Not the greatest excuse, but it is all I have...sorry...again.  I plan to be back on track tomorrow.

I Apologize

I apologize for not writing until now, but it was just so beautiful outside.  I couldn't pull myself away from the amazing weather we are having in Houston to type today.  I am sorry.  Every time I looked at my computer or laptop I was distracted by the clear blue skies.  When I left for work this morning the sun was shining so bright that I needed my sun glasses.  I love daylight savings time.  I love coming home while the sun is still out.  I know I will have to give up an hour of sleep, but it is so worth it.  So I hope you can accept my apology for soaking up some sun instead of typing.  I will try to do better tomorrow.  I will try.

Now I must go and read to my baby before bed.  This is the best part of my day.

An update for those who read my Monday post (here)...my back is feeling better each day.  The healing process is a slow process, but I have promised myself to take it easy as not to reaggravate my injury.

Have a great evening.

Thrifty Thursday

A constant here at My Life As… is the Thrifty Thursday Deals of the Week. Here are the rules I try to live by when compiling the deals:

1. I will list the best deal, in my opinion, for each store.
2. I will give you the item and the coupon you should clip and take to the store.
3. I will link back to the website I received the deal from so you can see more matchups.
4. I will try to stick to those items that are free or nearly free.

Happy Shopping!

Target (Week of 3/7 to 3/13)

Johnson's Buddies Soap Bars 97¢
- $1/1 Johnson's Coupon (3/7 Red Plum)
= Free

See the entire post here. Thank you Stephanie.

I love this soap.  I have done this deal many times!

 

Kroger (Week of 3/10 to 3/16)

Gatorade $1
- 50¢/1 Gatorade G2 Coupon (1/10 Red Plum) - Coupon doubles at my Kroger.
= Free

See the entire post here.  Thank you Stephanie.

Randalls (Week of 3/10 to 3/16)

Quaker Oatmeal Squares – $1-Use $1/1 Quaker coupon (2/14 Red Plum)= Free

See the entire post here.  Thank you Shellie.
Read more about double and triple coupons here.

Video of the Week

Here it is...the video of the week.  Many of you have probably seen this clip, but I still think it is hilarious.

Enjoy, and have a great Wednesday.

Learning More about Me

Since many of you know from my previous posts that I am imperfect, I do not feel the need to hide behind my inadequacies.  So along that train of thought I would like to share with you a short list of things I really want to try or learn, but don't have the courage yet.

1. Artichokes.  I want to cook them.  Every time I am in Target I look at them and wonder if I could really cook an artichoke.   They are so cute and inexpensive at certain times in the year, like now!  I want to broaden my food horizons.
2. Driving a car manually.  I think it is very cool and certainly cost effective, to drive a car manually.  I have always been fascinated by the concept, but have never learned how to actually do it.  Now I do admit that I would rather not drive one during rush hour traffic, but I would love to have the ability to drive one just in case.  You never know when you will be faced with a situation that requires that special skill.
3. Scuba Diving.  I am truly terrified yet intrigued by the idea of scuba diving.  I would love to go deep in the water and discover what is really down there, but the idea of being surrounded by all of that water really concerns me.  I have snorkeled before, but this is truly on another level all together.
4. Cooking on an outdoor grill.  Now I know this must seem strange, especially if you know that I have a propane grill right in my backyard, but the truth of the matter is I have never even started the thing.  My husband is in charge of the grill, but I so want to learn.  My biggest fear is overcooking the chicken.  I just know I will ruin the chicken.  However, I think this summer I just may get up the nerve to try.  (Of course I will Google the best methods first.)
5. Going on a trip in an RV.  This is something I have never done, but the appeal of living in the vehicle you are driving is very interesting.  These days the RVs are so luxurious and may provide better living quarters than some hotels.  My husband is really interested in this as well.  You never know what this summer may bring.
6. Learn to play chess.  As a self-proclaimed "thinker" I would love to learn the thinking man's game.  I have convinced my boss to teach me all he knows.  The next step is to get started.  I am happy to say I know a lot about the pieces and how they are allowed to move, but the rest is Greek.  I am hoping to add chess to my repertoire this year.
7. Make my Grandma's chili.  I am sad to say that I have not been successful in finding the recipe to my Grandma's world famous chili.  This was my favorite meal as a child, and I regret not asking for the family secret the last time she was in Houston.  (However, I did get the red potatoes recipe.)  I looked all over the house when we were home for Christmas, but no luck.  If any family member knows the secret recipe, please pass it on.
8. Have a signature macaroni and cheese.  I really want to be that family member that they always ask to bring macaroni and cheese.  It is my favorite holiday dish....right family.  I just want to make one that is a-la-Laura.  I have the pasta part and my secret ingredient worked out, but I am still struggling to make the cheese sauce memorable.  I will keep working at it and let you know when you should request a sample.
9. Go to Disney World.  I know that sounds very cliché, but it is true.  I want to go, and now I want to take my daughter.  She is a little small now, but I am hopeful that soon we share that experience together.
10. Doing my own taxes.  I just don't have the energy to learn another thing right now, and taxes appear to be very complicated.  Taxes seem like something I should be able to do, but I am intimidated by the whole process.  Maybe there are just too many words on a form and way too many forms for my taste.  Maybe it's the fact that if you are wrong they will hunt you down until they get their money.  Seems so ominous.  I know if I really put my mind to it I could be successful, but again my brain is currently full.  Therefore, this year I will be getting a package together to send over to our CPA.  Maybe I will be ready in a few years.

Can you help me with any of the items on my list?  What do you want to do, but just haven't tried yet?

It's Monday - Enough Said!

Happy Monday All!

I am trying to smile through the pain of Monday.  I am all stuffy with allergy problems.  My upper back hurts probably due to a strained muscle.  I am a little miserable today.  I have yet another motto that has helped me through this day - "Fake it 'til you make it!"

When I was a dancer that was a slogan we lived by.  When in rehersal, and you don't really know all of the steps, you have to pretend you do until the steps become second nature.  So today was a fake it 'til you make it day for me.  I have been pushing through the pain of the day all the while fooling those around me.  You should try it sometimes...it is very liberating if you can pull it off.  However, now I have an appointment with an Icy Hot patch and hopefully a good nights sleep. (pending cooperation from you know who!)

How do you fake it 'til you make it?  Enjoy the rest of your day.

Someone Should’ve Told Me…

Every day as I look at my daughter growing up before my very eyes, I fight hard not to lose the memories of how it was back then. Three years ago my baby was born, and my life changed forever. I struggle with memories of her being so small. I want to remember those times, good and bad, because before I know it she will be a teenager. I try my best to capture our lives through this blog, my daughter's Shutterfly page, my new Project Life book and pictures. (My family will tell you that I love to send pictures.) Being a mother has been a blessing, and I want to be able to tell her all about how she was when she was a little girl.

In my quest to remember, I have come across a not so good time in my life during her first two months on this Earth. I remember feeling lost and trapped in my own home. I had a hard time for a few reasons, 1) I am not a night person, but breastfeeding a new baby doesn't allow you the freedom to "select your own schedule"…she's hungry…she eats, and 2) I have a type A personality that prohibits me from "going with the flow". During this time no sleep and going with the flow are normal…see why I was having a hard time. So in this segment of Someone Should've Told Me here at My Life As I would like to discuss the Baby Blues.

I don't believe I was severely depressed, but I was certainly overwhelmed. I was determined to breast feed my daughter, especially since my milk is FREE. (I can't help being frugal.) I was also determined to sleep, eat, bathe, and clean up every once in a while. I was determined to keep track of her every move and every drop of milk she drank. I was determined and that determination nearly drove me crazy.

Now up until the point of labor, I was in control. I had washed all of her soon-to-be clothes (per the baby book). I had sterilized all of her bottles, and prepared her bed (which she didn't sleep in until well past 6 months). I made her diaper bag, and organized my hospital bag. I had read all of the right books, taken all of the classes offered by the hospital, and had a beautifully written Birth Plan that I fully intended to follow. I found the perfect pediatrician, and ear-marked a few dentists. (Yes I knew she wouldn't be born with teeth!) I was ready. Then came LABOR. I was good with the labor until my water broke. Then the contractions seemed to be very, very bad as compared to the beginning of labor. I got to the hospital and was hooked up to the machine for monitoring, but that was around 1 o'clock in the morning. (Keep in mind I had been at work all day…been up since 6 am…my patience and pain tolerance was wearing thin.) A special note is required here because I failed to mention earlier that my beautifully written Birth Plan specifically stated that I wanted nothing to do with an epidural. NO MEDS FOR ME! Ole natural is what I wanted! So at 3 o'clock in the morning, with tears of disappointment in my eyes, I reluctantly requested an epidural…AND IT WAS THE BEST DECISION I MADE THAT DAY! I was so exhausted, and I couldn't remember any breathing techniques. The ones I did remember weren't working. The pain was driving me crazy, and that was the first time in the entire nine months that I felt out of control. I had no control over this God-made baby girl. I had no control over His timing, but I tell you what, I thank Him for timing because after that epidural I slept for the next five hours straight. The next thing I remember is the doctor coming and saying I should push now. That was the best, and the last good sleep I have had in three years!

For the next two months I was blessed to have my mother practically live with us to help me through the very difficult transition into my NEW life. What I didn't expect was to feel so down all of the time. I was very emotional and unsure of everything. The only thing I knew I could do for sure was hug and love that little girl.

So after my two months was over the day came for my mother to leave, and the night before I remember being in a closet, sitting on the floor next to my mom, on the phone with my Grandma, and crying hysterically saying, "I can't do this. My mom can't leave me." Someone should've told me that I would have to learn that it is OK to cry…a lot…often…and that doesn't make you weak, but it makes you NORMAL.

A small amount of the Baby Blues is expected after having a baby, and I surely had my fair share. I would always caution those who are caring for the new mom to consider depression. Talk to your doctor about the signs of depression, but also be aware that Baby Blues are normal and what the mom really needs is support.

During those first few months I did cry often, and it was my way of letting go. I felt stronger when I got it all out. My grandma would always tell me it was ok to cry. Thanks Grandma.

Leave a comment. Did you experience the Baby Blues?

Saturday Savings – Where To Shop: Part 2

As we continue to learn more about where to shop to maximize your savings, let's move on to grocery stores. In my book there are three types of grocery stores: 1) Those that don't accept coupons, 2) Those that accept manufacturer's coupons at face value, and 3) Those that double and triple manufacturer's coupons. When I was growing up, Kroger was our family store. I always remember going to the store with my mom, or walking to the store under protest, and seeing a banner hanging outside of the store advertising double and triple coupons. At the time I did not know what that banner meant because I did not grow up in a "diehard" couponing house. We would use coupons sometimes, but it wasn't a way of life like it is for me now. So just in case you are in the same boat, and couponing, and the lingo associated with it, are foreign to you, I will cover the basics here.

Fact #1 – To maximize the value of your coupon, you should shop at a grocery store that doubles and triples your coupon. Doubling and tripling takes the value that the manufacture is going to reimburse the store and adds extra savings from the store itself. The store is giving you money, and sometimes free products because of the extra value of your coupon.

Fact #2 – The way a coupon doubles or triples is pretty standard with the two stores in my area – Randall's (Safeway) and Kroger. The store will double your coupon up to $0.50 and will triple your coupon up to $0.35. Let me break this down a little further for you.

• All coupons with a face value of $0.01 (I have never seen one.) up to $0.39 will triple in value. So a $0.35 coupon is now worth $1.05 off of the product.
• All coupons with a face value of $0.40 up to $0.50 will double in value. So a $0.40 coupon is now worth $0.80 off the product.
• All coupons with a face value of $0.51 up to $1.00 or more are accepted at face value.

Fact #3 – It appears that all stores do not accept coupons equally. What I mean by that is at Kroger I can use multiple coupons with a value that is supposed to be doubled (like at $0.50 coupon), and their registers double each coupon no matter how many I have. As long as I have one coupon for every product each coupon will multiply. However, at Randall's (as I learned recently in my couponing) I can only have one like coupon doubled per transaction. I can not prove with certainty the Kroger rule, but now that I am thinking about it I will check it out the next time I go.  Here is an example for clarification of how it works at Randall's:

• Assume I was buying canned green beans priced at $1.50 cents per can, and I have a coupon for $0.50 cents off 1 can. If I were buying one can at Randall's, I would pay $0.50 for this can because my $0.50 coupon would double giving me a value of $1.00 as a form of payment. However, if I were buying 4 cans of green beans at $1.50 each ($6.00 total) and I have 4 coupons for $0.50 off one can you would assume that my total price would be $2.00 for all four cans. This is not true at Randall's. At Randall's the register only doubles the first of my 4 coupons, and accepts my other 3 coupons at face value. If you know this you have one of the following options:
• Ask the cashier if you can make four separate purchases.
• Make four separate purchases on different days or stores (remember you have an entire week in most cases to catch the sale)
• Resolve to only purchasing one can and saving your other coupons for a future sale. (hopefully before they expire)
• Bring your husband and make him purchase a can in the other line! (You know I will use that one!)
• Accept that you will only receive a double coupon benefit on the first can, and you will have to pay $1.00 for the others. You will get a savings, just not as much of one as you could receive.

NOTE: The only coupons you have to worry about with Randall's are those that fall into the double or triple coupon benefit range. If the green bean coupon offers $0.55 off of one can, you can use as many as you want because it would not have doubled or tripled anyway.

Fact #3 – Doubling or tripling can save you money, but make sure the item is on sale or you "must" purchase the item. Don't let the coupon burn a hole in your pocket. Nine times out of ten a sale will come around before the coupon expires.

Facts #4 – Always take your time. If you get in the store and things don't seem right then don't buy. Go home and regroup then try again later.

Let's stop there for today. I encourage you to try your hand at coupon shopping at the grocery store. There are many opportunities for free items. Build your stockpile!

Let me know how your couponing is going. Next week we will address digital coupons.

Enjoy your weekend.

Top 5 - Rodeo Edition

I am very excited about our trip to the Houston Livestock Show and Rodeo tomorrow, and I am even more excited about introducing my daughter to the festivities. This will be her first rodeo, and the carnival is sure to be her favorite thing. I wonder how she will feel about the calf scramble? In honor of our Saturday outing to the Rodeo, I have highlighted the top five things I love and the top 5 things I can't stand about the Rodeo.


Top 5 things I LOVE about the Rodeo

1. Parade (The bands, horses, cowboys and cowgirls of course! My daughter loved the cheerleaders. I loved the women riding side saddle. So traditional and beautiful.)
2. Concerts (especially Brad Paisley…enough said. Can you tell he is my favorite?)
3. Carnival (My daughter is really into Ferris Wheels – go figure.)
4. Texan Pride (There is something about being involved with something that is uniquely Texas. I am proud to be a Texan.)
5. Calf Scramble (A very interesting event – calves and scholarship money – all you have to do is catch one.)

Honorable Mention

• Rodeo Attire – Boots, jeans and cowboy hats. The one time of year you dust them off, and show them off. (The good news is people won't look at you funny because they are wearing them too.)

Top 5 things I CAN"T STAND about the Rodeo

1. Rain (My mother firmly believes that rain accompanies every Rodeo. She has been right before. Let's see about this year.)
2. Animal Poop (I am sure I don't need to explain my position on this. My daughter has named the street sweepers from the parade – The Dusters. We had to cover our faces every time they came by. Yuck.)
3. Parking (If you are not blessed to have free parking, you must pay A LOT to park. It is not very close. I hope your boots are made for walking.)
4. Late Nights (If you go for a concert, the person you paid to see will not be on stage until at least 9 pm. Then you get out of there around 11 pm. Get home about 12 am. Then turn around and go to work for 7 am. Yikes. I am not a night person, but I can make an exception for Brad Paisley.)
5. Can't See It All (I am always torn by what concert to see, and balancing that with when I can get a baby sitter. I want to see and do it all, but I can't. Thankfully, there will always be next year.)

Honorable Mention

• Long Walks – Exercise is good, but depending on where you park you are in for a very long walk. You walk from your car to the stadium gate. You then walk from the stadium gate to the actual stadium. Finally you walk in the stadium to your seat. You will clock a few miles with this adventure.

Who is your favorite Rodeo performer? Are you going to the Rodeo this year? Check out the website (here) for more information.

Have a mighty fine day!

Thrifty Thursday

A constant here at My Life As… is the Thrifty Thursday Deals of the Week. Here are the rules I try to live by when compiling the deals:

1. I will list the best deal, in my opinion, for each store.
2. I will give you the item and the coupon you should clip, or print, and take to the store.
3. I will link back to the website I received the deal from so you can see more matchups.
4. I will try to stick to those items that are free or nearly free.

This week my deals have to do with price matching. (Learn more about it by clicking here.) I will highlight two stores this week – Target and Walmart.

Happy Shopping!

NOTE: You will need your Big Lots sale paper along with coupons to complete these deals. If you don't have a Big Lots near you, or you don't get the Big Lots ad in your Sunday newspaper, I invite you to visit the websites to find additional items you can shop for this week at other stores.

Walmart and/or Target (Week of 2/28 to 3/6)
You can do these deals at either store because they both will price match. I am doing my deals at Target this time. The coupons are available by clicking the link under the item and printing them from a website.

V8 V-Fusion Juice, 46 oz - $1.50 in ad
Use $1/1 Printable (campellskitchen.com)
Final Price =$.50
Thanks Krazy Coupon Lady (Read entire post here.)

All Laundry Detergent 50 oz - $2.50 in ad
Use $2/1 (Red Plum 2/7)
Final Price=$.50

Thanks Totally Target and Krazy Coupon Lady (Read their entire posts here and here.)

I did the V8 V Fusion deal yesterday at Target and I came home with 7 bottles of juice for $3.50!  (The juice costs $2.99 at Target regular price.) Yippie!  I did the All deal when it came out about two months ago so I am out of coupons and have too much laundry detergent...says my husband.)

Leave a comment. Did you try to price match this week? How did you do with printing coupons? I wish you great success.

Video Wednesday

The middle of the week is here, and I can't wait for Saturday. We are going to the Houston Livestock Show and Rodeo as well as the Rodeo Carnival. Yippie! I love Rodeo time in Houston.

Today's video is a great pick me up, which we all might need. I found hope when I watched it during my trying week. (See post here.)

Some of you have seen this video because once it touched me via email I forwarded it on to all the women I know. As I looked at it again I realized that many men could benefit too. This clip is wonderful and emotional. I know I am a child of the only living God after watching this message.

Enjoy!

Just Keep Swimming

Last week was a trying week for me. My daughter was at the tail end of a cold, work was busy with so many different projects, the house needed a lot of cleaning (I am not sure why the house was extra dirty), and the laundry kept piling up no matter how many loads I washed. No matter what I did to try to get ahead of the game, I constantly fell behind. I wouldn't normally share these ramblings with people, but I figured maybe you had a week like this too in the recent past. Maybe we can help each other.

The hours in the day can sometimes seem short, and the hours you have to sleep even shorter. The projects, tasks, responsibilities, and/or chores appear insurmountable. Your hope for ever making it out of such a rut is diminishing. What do you do? What do you do when you can barely keep your head above water? What do you do when no matter how hard you try it's just not good enough? I have a saying in my life that comes from a very popular children's movie "Finding Nemo" – JUST KEEP SWIMMING. This motto came back to me while listening to the sermon at church this Sunday where the Pastor spoke on the same concept - running the race of life. Hebrews 12:1-3 (Looking back I suppose I needed to hear that message.)

"Just keep swimming" is a reminder to me that the only option is to keep moving forward. Keep your arms moving and your eyes fixed on the prize.

When I was learning to play tennis (I retired at the tender age of 16), my coach used to make us run a two-mile path two times a day. Needless to say I did not like that path because I wondered what long distance running had to do with anything - this is a tennis camp. What's running got to do with it? (I was young…naive.) When we used to run our coach told us we were not allowed to stop running…no matter what. Walking was not an option. No matter how slow we ran, we were required to make it look like running. I gained a principle from that experience in my life, and I wish to share them with you in hopes of helping you when times get tough.

You must keep swimming, running or whatever you are supposed to be doing. Now the operative word here is "supposed" because if you are doing something outside of the will of God for your life, there is no amount of running you can do that will help you cross that finish line. You will be like a dog chasing its tail…no results in sight. However, if you are running or swimming in your lane headed towards the finish line, you will be rewarded for your efforts.

When we ran for tennis it was very tiring and we hated every minute of it, but when we ran without ceasing over a period of weeks, we gained strength and confidence. We were in better shape because we ran, and we were eventually in better shape than anyone else we played in tournaments. We could outlast the opponent, and hardly break a sweat.

I guess my point is you have to keep going. Jesus didn't decide things were too hard when he was dying on a cross for us because the finish line, what he was fighting for, was greater than any pain He suffered.

When things look miserable, and hope is fading, just keep swimming. Eventually if you are on the right track, and with a little prayer and perseverance, the finish line will come. Remember if you stop on the track during the race, it will take longer to get to your final destination.

Leave a comment. Let me know how you handle the tough times? What scripture do you lean on when you need a helping hand?